Guest guest Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 Joanna I lost nada a year ago this month. I m on that journey now. You do the best you can. It will not be what you want it to be because your mom is a BPD. I m not offering advice, just pointing out that once she is gone, anything you wanted to say is at an end. If that matters, you might consider trying a goodbye visit. I m not advising, because I don t know your situation. I would also point out that we carry a lot of toxic unforgiveness. It does nt hurt them , only us. If you are able to forgive her and let go of the hurt, it truly benefits you. Not that she did not hurt you deeply, as we all know nada s do. But consider what is best for you. Having done that, do the best you can, and be gentle with yourself. You don t owe explanations to anyone else. You didnt ask for the troubled situation with your mom. For whatever reason, she developed BPD. It makes relationships very difficult. It is what it is. Feel free to ask anything as you go thru this journey, or after her death. Blessings Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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