Re: Who is afraid of the big bad wolf?....well I am...Bpd and boundries

[Guest guest]

I know how you feel!! Going NC with my mother took a couple of attempts, and it

was like War of the Worlds for a long while.

But if you stick at it, it is worth it. Think of it as not only changing YOUR

behaviour with them, but you are also breaking some of their habits, and, just

like a 3 year old, when you no longer give in to the behaviour of theirs that

gets them what they want, they will go troppo til they learn to adapt. Adults

can take a long time to adapt to things.

If they are crossing a legal line with harassment, then do whatever you need to

for yourself and your daughter to feel safe.

Best of luck xxx

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> I just wish I could go no contact and be left alone. But no. I had to change

my phone number, and my daughters as well. The reason why I went NC is I

couldn't stand the drama...now it is so much worse. I have a nada and a fada.

They have been divorced for 20 years and have not spoken a word to each other

since. I am the family scapegoat(yet I became so much more succesful than them

so they are jealous always hinting that I am going to loose everything) I just

feel like as a kid I did not have any boundries and my house was made out of

straw...when I got a little older and wiser I turned that one in for sticks. Now

I have a house made of bricks but I can still feel their anger and rage against

something that really dosen't call for that kind of behavior (hate letters,

threats, drama texts to my daughter). All I want is NC. All I want is to move

on. All I want is to heal. I am thinking of maybe starting some kind of legal

action against them. I am not afraid per se, it is hard not to cave just to stop

the madness!

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[Guest guest]

Okay, reading this makes me realize it's a process to go non contact, it's

something which one doesn't achieve overnight....

Thanks for posting, thanks for reassuring me I am not alone.

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> > I just wish I could go no contact and be left alone. But no. I had to change

my phone number, and my daughters as well. The reason why I went NC is I

couldn't stand the drama...now it is so much worse. I have a nada and a fada.

They have been divorced for 20 years and have not spoken a word to each other

since. I am the family scapegoat(yet I became so much more succesful than them

so they are jealous always hinting that I am going to loose everything) I just

feel like as a kid I did not have any boundries and my house was made out of

straw...when I got a little older and wiser I turned that one in for sticks. Now

I have a house made of bricks but I can still feel their anger and rage against

something that really dosen't call for that kind of behavior (hate letters,

threats, drama texts to my daughter). All I want is NC. All I want is to move

on. All I want is to heal. I am thinking of maybe starting some kind of legal

action against them. I am not afraid per se, it is hard not to cave just to stop

the madness!

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