Re: FW: My story and some questions

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Hi Blue,

Almost every description about your nada could apply to mine as well! You have

described my 70-year-old, BPD, high functioning nada almost to the last detail.

When I found out that my mother's behaviour had a name it was one of the most

relieving and yet sad days of my life. But it helps tremendously to know that

there is a mental illness that explains their abusive, mean, belittling

behaviours.

The bad news is that little can be done. I am LC (low contact) with her because

I cannot stand her meanness and don't want to subject my kids and husband to her

endless dramas, mental tricks and rages. I have learned that no matter what you

do (or don't!) 1) it is never enough for them and 2) you'll be wrong in their

eyes either way.

Welcome to this board. It helps a lot to know that you are not alone and that

there are several people battling the same crazy, irrational, and hurting

behaviours of BPD.

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> So I found my first listing...Thanks Randi for posting this for me, I didn't

exactly know where to begin...I've been reading some of the other posts, being

new to all this, it's becoming more obvious that our Mother is a BPD...Too bad

it took so long for any one to even mention this to one of us...I'm guessing she

is what is called a HF borderline...She is one that does very often seem normal

and rational and then she can go wacko at any point...Which means out of the

blue insult you for no reason or be critical about something that doesn't even

have anything do with the subject your talking about...Last night my sister went

to pick some things up at her house and she immediately insulted her

hair...Said, " Do you like your hair? " It looks awful. " She'd just gone and had

it cut and highlighted, I told my baby sis it looked pretty, ignore Mother...

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