jealousy or justified anger?

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So, I married my husband (13 years ago) after dating him for 4 years. He was the

only person I ever really dated... We began dating in 9th grade and married a

month after high school graduation... anyway, we had no money... we were both

registered to start college full time..etc... my Nada really had nothing to do

with the wedding... she wasnt against it, just didnt really care... she paid for

my consignment wedding dress that cost about $150.... I did all the planning,

picking out flowers, decorating the church...on my own....

Now, 13 years later my husband is a dentist, we have a beautiful

family....etc... and now my step-sister (whom my Nada hasnt had anything to do

with since she married my step-father) is getting married and my Nada has to

make a point every time I talk to her about how much they are spending on the

wedding, how she is flying in to help her dress shop, how she called my

step-sister to get " every little detail " ... and I just want to scream " SHOVE

IT!! "

My Nada has had nothing but evil, backstabbing crap to say about her for the

last 12 years but now this is a chance for her to make me feel jealous or hurt

my feelings ... or whatever it is she is doing and she just cant get enough of

rubbing it in... she even said, " Poor (step-sister), she is 31 years old and

this is the first guy she has ever been serious about, she deserves to have a

huge, beautiful wedding. "

I am thinking.... yeah.... and I deserved what exactly?? But I have never been

of any interest to Nada so why does this surprise me and aggravate the hell out

of me???? UGH....