Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 Unfortunately I think BPDs like the idea of becoming foster parents - it gives them something to complain about, they get to " fix " another child into what they believe a child should be etc etc. My mother has said numerous times that she would like to be a foster mother - thank god she never did. I cant say Ive seen this sort of behaviour tho - it sure sounds creepy... > > Hey All- > > my foster daughter just told me something super creepy about her former foster mom (whom we met and instantly disliked - major BPD alarms bells going off after just an hour with her) > > She told me the woman used to come into her bedroom in the middle of the night, and just stand there staring at her. She'd wake up and find this woman just staring at her, silently, in a " scary " way. For like half an hour. > > WTF!?!?!?! > > Anyone else experience something like this? > > Letty > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 I think that is really, really creepy behavior, myself. I haven't experienced this personally from my bpd/npd mother but at another Group I belonged to (for those with bpd relatives or chosen relationships) one of the posters mentioned that her new husband started going into his step-child's room and would just stand there staring and staring at the girl while she slept for what seemed like a very long time, to the poster. The poster said her daughter (like your foster daughter) would wake up sometimes or otherwise became aware that her step-dad was just standing over her bed and silently watching her sleep, and she didn't like it, it creeped her out, it felt like her privacy and personal space was being violated. Big Red Flat: He forbade his step-daughter to lock her door, on top of it. The member of that Forum asked whether it was OK for her daughter to lock her door at night (!!?) With almost one voice, we other members chorused a loud, " YES! Tell your daughter that she MUST lock her door at night!! " I went so far as to suggest that that was abnormal, possessive, predatory behavior on the part of her husband and the member needed to protect her child by setting a strict boundary regarding her daughter's right to privacy and that if he violated it, there would be very severe consequences. -Annie > > Hey All- > > my foster daughter just told me something super creepy about her former foster mom (whom we met and instantly disliked - major BPD alarms bells going off after just an hour with her) > > She told me the woman used to come into her bedroom in the middle of the night, and just stand there staring at her. She'd wake up and find this woman just staring at her, silently, in a " scary " way. For like half an hour. > > WTF!?!?!?! > > Anyone else experience something like this? > > Letty > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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