triggers triggers and more triggers

[Guest guest]

Do you feel like every where you look their are triggers? My day started

driving for coffee with boyfriend. I was singing along to the radio when he

joined in in a total mocking, phoney voice. I told him to quit it, he was

ruining the song for me. He kept it up. Finally I said, " I feel like I'm 10

years old again, trapped in a car with my brother who doesn't know when to

stop teasing me. " So then he gets upset and tells me I'm accusing him of

being horrible like my family. So, I explained what an " I " statement is and

asked him to google it and learn the concept since he had never heard of it

(I just think men don't get as interested in all this stuff). When I say " I

feel, " I'm not saying anything about who you are, just about how I

personally feel right now. He's like oh okay. But it was like a 2 or 3 hour

argument. . . ugh.

Then I go to get my hair done (this is something I HATE! I'd rather get a

pap smear than get my hair done), and it was way past due. I spent 2 hours

with an irritating girl prattling at me about her family and wondering about

mine. . . Finally I had to explain " I don't talk to my family. " OOOOH, okay.

.. .

I wonder if the hair dresser triggered me because nada goes to hers weekly

and bitches about me, and then she expected ME to get my hair done at the

same place. Ugh.

I'm not sure. I just know I HATE it!!!

I'm exhausted, headache, neck ache etc. Its only 2 and I feel ready for bed.

I'd call that a trigger. What do you guys think?

[Guest guest]

I used to do this all the time, but it is getting better. Driving at night (or

riding) is a big trigger for me and I have really yet to figure out why. The

lights reflecting on the road trigger me really bad. I avoid it if I can.

Everything else, I kind of just have learned to cope with by using my coping

skills my therapist taught me.

triggers triggers and more triggers

Do you feel like every where you look their are triggers? My day started

driving for coffee with boyfriend. I was singing along to the radio when he

joined in in a total mocking, phoney voice. I told him to quit it, he was

ruining the song for me. He kept it up. Finally I said, " I feel like I'm 10

years old again, trapped in a car with my brother who doesn't know when to

stop teasing me. " So then he gets upset and tells me I'm accusing him of

being horrible like my family. So, I explained what an " I " statement is and

asked him to google it and learn the concept since he had never heard of it

(I just think men don't get as interested in all this stuff). When I say " I

feel, " I'm not saying anything about who you are, just about how I

personally feel right now. He's like oh okay. But it was like a 2 or 3 hour

argument. . . ugh.

Then I go to get my hair done (this is something I HATE! I'd rather get a

pap smear than get my hair done), and it was way past due. I spent 2 hours

with an irritating girl prattling at me about her family and wondering about

mine. . . Finally I had to explain " I don't talk to my family. " OOOOH, okay.

.. .

I wonder if the hair dresser triggered me because nada goes to hers weekly

and bitches about me, and then she expected ME to get my hair done at the

same place. Ugh.

I'm not sure. I just know I HATE it!!!

I'm exhausted, headache, neck ache etc. Its only 2 and I feel ready for bed.

I'd call that a trigger. What do you guys think?

[Guest guest]

Yelling. I cant handle it. Even when Im angry Ill just say things in an angry

way, I never yell. I cant even stand children yelling in someones yard, it makes

me cringe.

I got a dog recently, and I cant handle it when my partner yells at it for

burying his socks, even raising his voice and I just want to cry. Wierd, eh?

I had a giggle when I read that youd rather get a papsmear than a haircut - you

must reeeeeeealy hate the hairdressers! I found that male hairdressers are

better - not as inane and they talk less.

Photos also get me. I saw one of my mother and I the other day - she has this

way of tilting her head, smiling a big fake smile and batting her eyelashes at

the camera that makes me want to puke. Its so FAKE. I just know that two seconds

before she would have been yelling at the person with the camera to " hurry up! I

dont have time for this rubbish! "

Mum didnt take photos of us kids when we were growing up so I only have 2 or 3,

taken by other people. I find it hard to look at them as it just reminds me of

what it was like to be a kid. Too horrible.

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> Do you feel like every where you look their are triggers? My day started

> driving for coffee with boyfriend. I was singing along to the radio when he

> joined in in a total mocking, phoney voice. I told him to quit it, he was

> ruining the song for me. He kept it up. Finally I said, " I feel like I'm 10

> years old again, trapped in a car with my brother who doesn't know when to

> stop teasing me. " So then he gets upset and tells me I'm accusing him of

> being horrible like my family. So, I explained what an " I " statement is and

> asked him to google it and learn the concept since he had never heard of it

> (I just think men don't get as interested in all this stuff). When I say " I

> feel, " I'm not saying anything about who you are, just about how I

> personally feel right now. He's like oh okay. But it was like a 2 or 3 hour

> argument. . . ugh.

>

> Then I go to get my hair done (this is something I HATE! I'd rather get a

> pap smear than get my hair done), and it was way past due. I spent 2 hours

> with an irritating girl prattling at me about her family and wondering about

> mine. . . Finally I had to explain " I don't talk to my family. " OOOOH, okay.

> . .

>

> I wonder if the hair dresser triggered me because nada goes to hers weekly

> and bitches about me, and then she expected ME to get my hair done at the

> same place. Ugh.

>

> I'm not sure. I just know I HATE it!!!

>

> I'm exhausted, headache, neck ache etc. Its only 2 and I feel ready for bed.

> I'd call that a trigger. What do you guys think?

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