Re:the weight of the guilt

[Guest guest]

Riah I totally get the feeling you are going through. When I recently

tried to start up some boundaries with my mom, after first freaking out -- she

then blamed her irrational / inexplicable behavior on black mold poisonin

g. It was for me as well the first time she had admitted that there might

be some abnormal behaviors there...which is kind of weird and new to me in

itself. I've been in the mother role for a long time, and the guilt for me

is immense. I don't have good advice, I am new to all of this and therapy

and just wanted to say I feel your pain on this...!! I guess for me it's

been helpful when people have told me that I am enabling this behavior which

isn't really helping her at all. You might be in the same situation?

Maybe it will make you feel better to know that you are actually HELPING her

by disallowing the " crazy " in your life any more?

Best,

~Star