Re: Re-wiring my brain

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it may take some time to separate out the flea part from the 'real you' part,

and i think all of us are a combination of this to some degree.  ask yourself

what you might want in an ideal world, without constraints of any kind (money,

age, health, other people's expectations) and let your mind wander a bit.  you

may find some bits an pieces of such a fantasy revealing and even doable in the

real world.  this has helped me some.. good luck.ann

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> From: Zaire <sinyud@... <sinyud%40gmail.com>>

> Subject: Re-wiring my brain

> To: WTOAdultChildren1 <WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com>

> Date: Sunday, August 1, 2010, 10:43 AM

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> The trauma I've suffered at my borderline parents hands has left a huge

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> in my ability to feel safe interacting with other people. My resulting

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> avoidance of personal interactions has left my social skills somewhat

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> stunted. I'm still not a pro at setting boundaries, and I some times miss

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> hints when other people set boundaries. I feel really shitty when I cross

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> boundaries, so I try to maintain an emotional distance from people so I

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> don't accidentally cross them. This leaves me feeling isolated.

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> I feel like if I had a surrogate family, I could pick these skills up.

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> Don't get me wrong, therapy is working well for me, but I really want to

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> get some hands on experience interacting with people in a safe and loving

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> environment, so I can learn the social skills necessary to identify good

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> people to be around, and to know how interact with them.

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> I'm sometimes think a survivor of BPD parent group therapy coupled with a

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> social activity would do the trick. Like cooking dinner together, or going

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> to a park, etc.... With a therapist or two to help make sure that we that

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> we keep the experience positive and constructive.

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> Any one have any thoughts on this?

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