Guest guest Posted January 18, 2011 Report Share Posted January 18, 2011 Great posts, guys. Thanks for the support. You are SO right that it's nothing but pain to be mad at ourselves for not being better than we can be today. I'll try to stay right over my feet and take it a little at a time. Thanks! April Hi April,Totally hear you! I had one of those days yesterday. I've been doing really well with IE but for the first time in weeks I ended up going on a massive binge and feeling miserable again. I was trying to not eat emotionally "perfectly" and when I gave in yesterday, I started to feel guilty and ended up eating even more as a result. The trigger was just massive amounts of stress from my work. I tried being mindful and be aware of those feelings, but it was just too hard and I wanted to shut them out and avoid them all together even if it was just for a few minutes. Even though it is a set back, I still see it as an improvement of some sort. I used to binge like this at least 3-5 days a week! And now, its once in a while and now I think its totally ok to use food for comfort as long you are aware of what you are doing and its not the solution all the time. I finally learned to give myself that permission and know that the next time I need food for comfort it won't be as bad because I won't let myself feel guilty for it.So I learned something from this set back, but at the time, I was feeling discouraged and down.I think set backs are completely natural and normal... The ideals and expectations we set for perfection are what is not normal. I've been thinking a lot lately that we really just have to do the best that we can and be satisfied with that... and sometimes, the best we can do is to not be mindful when we are exhausted and emotionally and mentally drained. And that's part of life. The focus for me now is not to try to do IE perfectly or anything, but try to live my life in a way that will be supportive of my IE habits - try to get more sleep, be more efficient with work, relax more, etc... BIG hug to all,M.> > > > > > HI, all. > Well, I can feel pretty proud of myself for a while, just humming along > feeling like an IE pro. But then...a couple of days of being too tired, a > family dinner in a restaurant, a long night unable to sleep and I find that > I've gone back to eating like a crazed animal. Mostly sweets. > I actually even think that one of the triggers for overeating was the > feeling that I was doing so well - something about having success with this > that makes me think I might actually lose weight and then I start > overeating. > Getting back on the horse today. Recognizing that it's a slower process > than I want it to be. But also scared that I'm going to sabotage my > success at this. Anyone else have this experience? > April>------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2011 Report Share Posted January 18, 2011 Thanks, MJ. I suspect that after decades of restrictive dieting, the mere thought that I'm losing a bit of weight makes me feel like I must again be submitting to some restrictive regime. And then I rebel. I'm hoping that in time I will be able to tolerate losing weight without triggering that sense of being both deprived and controlled. Meanwhile I'm trying to remember that the rebellious part of me comes from a good place: it doesn't want me to starve. April April,I have that SAME trigger, feeling like I'm doing well. I get overconfident & it sets me off. Sometimes I notice that I will post something in a group about my progress & that will trigger me. WOW! It's like the "voice" comes in & says "who do you think you are? you think you have this beat? let me show you that you DON'T!!!!". Gosh, that is a good thing to recognize, it wasn't until you mentioned it that it became clear so thank you. Recognizing our triggers is so important because we can't feel the feelings if we don't know what they are about.mj>> HI, all. > Well, I can feel pretty proud of myself for a while, just humming along > feeling like an IE pro. But then...a couple of days of being too tired, a > family dinner in a restaurant, a long night unable to sleep and I find that > I've gone back to eating like a crazed animal. Mostly sweets. > I actually even think that one of the triggers for overeating was the > feeling that I was doing so well - something about having success with this > that makes me think I might actually lose weight and then I start > overeating. > Getting back on the horse today. Recognizing that it's a slower process > than I want it to be. But also scared that I'm going to sabotage my > success at this. Anyone else have this experience? > April>------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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