Re: Please help! Urgently need advice.

[Guest guest]

I understand this feeling.

I, too, have gained some weight since starting IE (about 10 pounds). Just the

other day, I was getting ready for work and I was feeling particularly bloaty.

I was traveling and had brought a rather close fitting sweater and I felt like

there was nowhere to hide in it, but I didn't have a replacement to wear. I was

fussing a bit, wishing the sweater was longer so it would cover my butt (as if

people really wouldn't think my butt was big if I had a sweater over it!), and

finally, I was just like " #*%*^) it. This is what I look like. People

(including me), just have to deal. " And I stopped fussing and went to work.

For the most part, I didn't think much about it for the rest of the day.

That said, it's hard, I know. But the reality is that 1) you can't control what

people think about you; 2) people think less about you than you think they do,

and 3) you could put the trip off until Thanksgiving, but unless you're planning

on getting liposuction between now and then, you will still be the same size.

So, there's very little point in stressing because you can't change who you are

(and shouldn't have to), you can't please everyone even if you do, and what

you're thinking in your own head is likely far worse than anything anyone else

is thinking.

So, take a deep breath and try to relax and enjoy the visit. Easier said than

done, I know. If that doesn't help, say " & #^$@ it! This is what I look like and

they'll just have to deal. " (pick the word of your choice. Personally, I find a

good explicit swear word very satisfying in these instances! LOL) I don't know

why, but that really helped me.

Josie

>

> Hi all,

> Hope all is well... I've been doing so well lately and really focusing on

taking care of my mind and body. I haven't binged in a while and just being a

lot more present and really settling into IE. However, I still have not lost

any weight. In fact, I think I have gained some as I've been listening to my

body and taking it easy on my workouts and doing things that I feel like doing

and not being as rigorous as before - I used to really torture myself.

> This all truly means progress in my mind, HUGE progress, but I'm supposed to

see my boyfriend's family tomorrow and I'm just feeling so self conscious all of

a sudden and feeling so embarrassed! None of my clothes are fitting and I even

went shopping today and couldn't find anything that I liked in my new size 16 -

the last time they saw me, I was a wonderful size 10. I'm supposed to drive

down there in the morning and really just want to curl up in bed and not go at

all.

> I know I'm beautiful and he loves all my curves and loves me the way I am, and

I'm hope his family will too, but I don't want them to see me when I'm feeling

so self conscious.

> I have an outfit put together, but I just don't feel good in my body right

now. PLEASE help!!!

> I'm supposed to see them again over Thanksgiving... would be such a bad idea

to cancel tomorrow and give myself another two weeks? I'm worried this pressure

is going to make me start binging again. I know its pressure that I'm putting

on myself, but I can't help it. If you have any advice, I would really really

appreciate it!!

> Thanks so much!

> Mali

>

[Guest guest]

Josie,

I loved this response, especially the part about the liposuction LOL.

Everything you said is so true, people generally are so focused on their own

" stuff " that they don't notice our stuff at all.

It was funny, Geneen is not afraid of using the **** word, she does it in her

book (even though I've read some comments from people who really didn't like it)

& she did it in the workshop when talking about what to say to the " voice " when

it is being negative. She said some people may just plain have to tell the voice

to ==== off!!!!!

And she kinda did a little voice scream up there. It was actually really funny.

I thought it was very brave of her to do that in front of over 800 women, not

caring how they perceived it.

I found her to be really entertaining. Would love to go again.

mj

> >

> > Hi all,

> > Hope all is well... I've been doing so well lately and really focusing on

taking care of my mind and body. I haven't binged in a while and just being a

lot more present and really settling into IE. However, I still have not lost

any weight. In fact, I think I have gained some as I've been listening to my

body and taking it easy on my workouts and doing things that I feel like doing

and not being as rigorous as before - I used to really torture myself.

> > This all truly means progress in my mind, HUGE progress, but I'm supposed to

see my boyfriend's family tomorrow and I'm just feeling so self conscious all of

a sudden and feeling so embarrassed! None of my clothes are fitting and I even

went shopping today and couldn't find anything that I liked in my new size 16 -

the last time they saw me, I was a wonderful size 10. I'm supposed to drive

down there in the morning and really just want to curl up in bed and not go at

all.

> > I know I'm beautiful and he loves all my curves and loves me the way I am,

and I'm hope his family will too, but I don't want them to see me when I'm

feeling so self conscious.

> > I have an outfit put together, but I just don't feel good in my body right

now. PLEASE help!!!

> > I'm supposed to see them again over Thanksgiving... would be such a bad idea

to cancel tomorrow and give myself another two weeks? I'm worried this pressure

is going to make me start binging again. I know its pressure that I'm putting

on myself, but I can't help it. If you have any advice, I would really really

appreciate it!!

> > Thanks so much!

> > Mali

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you all sooooooooooo much!! You have NO IDEA how much reading your

responses meant to me!

I realized an issue I was having was that my more dressy appropriate

undergarments were too tight since it has been a while since I have dressed

up... so I went out shopping the next day and bought things that fit me well and

treated my curves with respect!

AND I felt so great in my body and even sexy as a result. Its hard to feel good

about yourself if your bra is tugging tight and making it hard to breath!

So I put on my new lovely undergarments, then my black dress and sexy shoes and

felt amazing in my body. I walked in with so much confidence and really enjoyed

the night! I truly had a great time and loved seeing everyone. I can't believe

I was about to miss out on that experience!

So thank for all your support and helping me get the courage to love my curves

even more.

I have been doing so well the last few days... taking good care of my body,

treating it with more respect, and eating so much better and feeling so

wonderful as a result!

Its so wonderful to know that I'm not alone. Thank you!

> > >

> > > Hi all,

> > > Hope all is well... I've been doing so well lately and really focusing on

taking care of my mind and body. I haven't binged in a while and just being a

lot more present and really settling into IE. However, I still have not lost any

weight. In fact, I think I have gained some as I've been listening to my body

and taking it easy on my workouts and doing things that I feel like doing and

not being as rigorous as before - I used to really torture myself.

> > > This all truly means progress in my mind, HUGE progress, but I'm supposed

to see my boyfriend's family tomorrow and I'm just feeling so self conscious all

of a sudden and feeling so embarrassed! None of my clothes are fitting and I

even went shopping today and couldn't find anything that I liked in my new size

16 - the last time they saw me, I was a wonderful size 10. I'm supposed to drive

down there in the morning and really just want to curl up in bed and not go at

all.

> > > I know I'm beautiful and he loves all my curves and loves me the way I am,

and I'm hope his family will too, but I don't want them to see me when I'm

feeling so self conscious.

> > > I have an outfit put together, but I just don't feel good in my body right

now. PLEASE help!!!

> > > I'm supposed to see them again over Thanksgiving... would be such a bad

idea to cancel tomorrow and give myself another two weeks? I'm worried this

pressure is going to make me start binging again. I know its pressure that I'm

putting on myself, but I can't help it. If you have any advice, I would really

really appreciate it!!

> > > Thanks so much!

> > > Mali

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

thank you for sharing that amazing story of how things can change just by how we

choose to look at them. That's what I love to hear & to me that is the success

of LIVING by IE. Way to go girl. As Oprah would say " I can see that your feelin'

yourself, girl!!!! " YES!!!!

> > > >

> > > > Hi all,

> > > > Hope all is well... I've been doing so well lately and really focusing

on taking care of my mind and body. I haven't binged in a while and just being a

lot more present and really settling into IE. However, I still have not lost any

weight. In fact, I think I have gained some as I've been listening to my body

and taking it easy on my workouts and doing things that I feel like doing and

not being as rigorous as before - I used to really torture myself.

> > > > This all truly means progress in my mind, HUGE progress, but I'm

supposed to see my boyfriend's family tomorrow and I'm just feeling so self

conscious all of a sudden and feeling so embarrassed! None of my clothes are

fitting and I even went shopping today and couldn't find anything that I liked

in my new size 16 - the last time they saw me, I was a wonderful size 10. I'm

supposed to drive down there in the morning and really just want to curl up in

bed and not go at all.

> > > > I know I'm beautiful and he loves all my curves and loves me the way I

am, and I'm hope his family will too, but I don't want them to see me when I'm

feeling so self conscious.

> > > > I have an outfit put together, but I just don't feel good in my body

right now. PLEASE help!!!

> > > > I'm supposed to see them again over Thanksgiving... would be such a bad

idea to cancel tomorrow and give myself another two weeks? I'm worried this

pressure is going to make me start binging again. I know its pressure that I'm

putting on myself, but I can't help it. If you have any advice, I would really

really appreciate it!!

> > > > Thanks so much!

> > > > Mali

> > > >

> > >

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