Re: Re: Eating out and with others

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I know how you feel about restaurants. I will always eat more than I would at home because it is there. In my family, going out to eat was entertainment especially since we did a lot of family vacations. Food became much more than fuel for me and that has carried over into my adult life. I'm 34.

I want to set a good example for my son as he seems to have picky eating tendencies like I did. He is only going to know what he sees so I want to start eating out less for a lot of reasons.

How do all of you deal with restaurants?

Thanks

Chris

 

Right now, I'd say I try to avoid restaurants more than anything, because I do still have trouble stopping when satisfied and will eat a big restaurant portion. But when I do go, (and I do often eat out with colleagues from work more than is ideal, because it's still hard to urn down the invite), I'm working to just not beat myself up if I eat more than I would like (which is pretty much always). And I also try hard to then not eat as much for the rest of the day, which is usually pretty easy to do because I end up fuller than I'd like to be and often don't get hungry again for the rest of the day.

Josie

new post up @ www.artofintuitiveliving.blogspot.com--- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " jenbrube " wrote:

>> Hi everyone!> > First of all, I want to say that I am so very grateful I found this forum. You a...

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We eat out quite a bit (2-3 times a week). It's just something we really enjoy doing and I don't think it's incompatible w/ the IE philosophy at all. I order whatever sounds good to me and I just remind myself to eat slow, take breaks and really stay in touch w/ my satiety signals. One of our favorite places is Chipotle. I usually get the burrito bowl and I used to finish that and some chips without batting an eye. The other day I ate there and was conscious of what I was doing. I ended up eating about 1/2 the bowl and no chips. I was able to share the rest with my daughter. It's amazing when you're really tuned in how much less you need to be satisfied, at least that's what I'm finding. Another thing we find helpful is to split an entree (my husband and I). Restaurant portions are usually so huge and this way you're not tempted to eat way past your point of satisfaction, and you don't have to worry about throwing away leftovers.I know how you feel about restaurants. I will always eat more than I would at home because it is there. In my family, going out to eat was entertainment especially since we did a lot of family vacations. Food became much more than fuel for me and that has carried over into my adult life. I'm 34.I want to set a good example for my son as he seems to have picky eating tendencies like I did. He is only going to know what he sees so I want to start eating out less for a lot of reasons.How do all of you deal with restaurants?ThanksRight now, I'd say I try to avoid restaurants more than anything, because I do still have trouble stopping when satisfied and will eat a big restaurant portion. But when I do go, (and I do often eat out with colleagues from work more than is ideal, because it's still hard to urn down the invite), I'm working to just not beat myself up if I eat more than I would like (which is pretty much always). And I also try hard to then not eat as much for the rest of the day, which is usually pretty easy to do because I end up fuller than I'd like to be and often don't get hungry again for the rest of the day. Josienew post up @ www.artofintuitiveliving.blogspot.com--- In IntuitiveEating_Support , "jenbrube" wrote:>> Hi everyone!> > First of all, I want to say that I am so very grateful I found this forum. You a...

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Eating out is always a stressful time for me. I immediately begin to worry about what I "can" eat and then worry about eating too much just because I'm enjoying the food. Since starting IE, it's not nearly as bad as it was when counting points!

Rhonda

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Sent: Monday, August 23, 2010 7:23 PM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Eating out and with others

Hi Virginia,I certainly don't wish the eating out "dilemma" on anyone else here, but I admit that I feel relieved that others know how I feel and do experience that same rush when proposed with eating out. And I know just what you mean when you say that you get excited when your husband says he is going out so that you get the opportunity to binge in secret! I have experienced the same thing many times.I just hope I can work on making the dining out thing lose some of it's overwhelming power. I have felt this way since I was a kid, so I know it won't be simple to accomplish. But, again, it is nice to know that I'm not alone in this!Best,Jen> >> > Hi everyone!> > > > First of all, I want to say that I am so very grateful I found this forum. You are all so sweet and helpful and insightful and I feel very fortunate to have people who understand exactly what I am going through in terms of my compulsive eating and especially people that are committed to changing the way they approach food!> > > > I wanted to present the issue of eating out and eating with others. I find this to be a HUGE struggle. I have always reacted to the question from my husband )or anyone else for that matter), "Hey, Jen- you want to go out to eat tonight?" with extreme excitement and enthusiasm. My heart lifts, my face brightens, my mood lightens and I feel high. I've never needed illegal drugs because food always makes me high! I also get this way in social situations that involve eating. > > > > There have been occasions in which my husband will ask, "Do you want to go to 's Deli?" (or whatever) and I'm not hungry but I battle with myself about how to respond. Should I just go and not eat while he eats? Should I go and eat something small? Should I say "No. I'm not hungry"? And turning down this "opportunity" feels scary to me. Especially if it's a restaurant I really LOVE!> > > > Does anyone else experience this sort of thing?> > > > Jen> >>