Re: Eating out and with others

[Guest guest]

Hi Virginia,

I certainly don't wish the eating out " dilemma " on anyone else here, but I admit

that I feel relieved that others know how I feel and do experience that same

rush when proposed with eating out. And I know just what you mean when you say

that you get excited when your husband says he is going out so that you get the

opportunity to binge in secret! I have experienced the same thing many times.

I just hope I can work on making the dining out thing lose some of it's

overwhelming power. I have felt this way since I was a kid, so I know it won't

be simple to accomplish. But, again, it is nice to know that I'm not alone in

this!

Best,

Jen

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> > Hi everyone!

> >

> > First of all, I want to say that I am so very grateful I found this forum.

You are all so sweet and helpful and insightful and I feel very fortunate to

have people who understand exactly what I am going through in terms of my

compulsive eating and especially people that are committed to changing the way

they approach food!

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> > I wanted to present the issue of eating out and eating with others. I find

this to be a HUGE struggle. I have always reacted to the question from my

husband )or anyone else for that matter), " Hey, Jen- you want to go out to eat

tonight? " with extreme excitement and enthusiasm. My heart lifts, my face

brightens, my mood lightens and I feel high. I've never needed illegal drugs

because food always makes me high! I also get this way in social situations

that involve eating.

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> > There have been occasions in which my husband will ask, " Do you want to go

to 's Deli? " (or whatever) and I'm not hungry but I battle with myself

about how to respond. Should I just go and not eat while he eats? Should I go

and eat something small? Should I say " No. I'm not hungry " ? And turning down

this " opportunity " feels scary to me. Especially if it's a restaurant I really

LOVE!

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> > Does anyone else experience this sort of thing?

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> > Jen

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[Guest guest]

Josie,

Stopping when satisfied is one of my greatest difficulties right now as well.

And eating out sure doesn't help. But I've managed to instill the guidelines

into some dining out situations. Not most of them, but a few times. And I do

give myself credit for those moments.

But most of the time, eating out tends to be that " last supper " situation for

me! I have to practice turning down dining out offers when I am not

hungry!!!!!! I suppose we all do...

Take care,

Jen

> >

> > Hi everyone!

> >

> > First of all, I want to say that I am so very grateful I found this forum.

You are all so sweet and helpful and insightful and I feel very fortunate to

have people who understand exactly what I am going through in terms of my

compulsive eating and especially people that are committed to changing the way

they approach food!

> >

> > I wanted to present the issue of eating out and eating with others. I find

this to be a HUGE struggle. I have always reacted to the question from my

husband )or anyone else for that matter), " Hey, Jen- you want to go out to eat

tonight? " with extreme excitement and enthusiasm. My heart lifts, my face

brightens, my mood lightens and I feel high. I've never needed illegal drugs

because food always makes me high! I also get this way in social situations

that involve eating.

> >

> > There have been occasions in which my husband will ask, " Do you want to go

to 's Deli? " (or whatever) and I'm not hungry but I battle with myself

about how to respond. Should I just go and not eat while he eats? Should I go

and eat something small? Should I say " No. I'm not hungry " ? And turning down

this " opportunity " feels scary to me. Especially if it's a restaurant I really

LOVE!

> >

> > Does anyone else experience this sort of thing?

> >

> > Jen

> >

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