Re: Starting therapy again

[Guest guest]

doug, this sounds to me as if you may have the wrong t for you, not the match

you need to help you feel better, not worse!  t's are in my opinion at least

partly a source of hope and uplifting inspiration for me.. i tend to leave

almost every session, even in the beginning feeling better than when i went in,

most important when i was feeling sooo depressed.  find that kind of help if

you can i would urge you. sure therapy is hard work, but there should be some

joy in it too!  please find somethings to help you feel better!blessings, and

best wishes always,ann

Subject: Starting therapy again

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, September 29, 2010, 10:21 PM

 

Depression sucks.

So does therapy.

It s too damn hard.

I can t do the stuff T asks.

I really don t believe it will work.

Think I ll just hang where I am.

I m comfortable with this level of pain.

I despise change.

I fear change.

Change is risk.

Listing what you really want in relationships is risk.

Asking for it is horrible risk.

Believing you deserve it, or might get it, is unimaginable.

Think I ll just rest here.

Screw it.

Doug

somebody asked about the effects of BP moms on sons? They screw us up

for life.

[Guest guest]

I definitely relate to that! It's really hard to do ANYTHING while depressed,

frankly. And all that focusing on yourself can be unbearable.

Try to stick with it. (like I'm one to talk - I'm not in therapy at the

moment...)

Maybe find a different T. I find some just suck, or I can't " connect " with them.

I've had one that fell asleep in my sessions! Way to make me feel like more of a

burden! $150/hr to talk to a sleeping guy? My cat is better.

What kind of therapy are you doing? I really like cognitive therapy because I

don't have to talk about the past, but instead focus on the present, on my

current thoughts.

Casey

>

> Depression sucks.

>

> So does therapy.

>

> It s too damn hard.

>

> I can t do the stuff T asks.

>

> I really don t believe it will work.

>

> Think I ll just hang where I am.

>

> I m comfortable with this level of pain.

>

> I despise change.

>

> I fear change.

>

> Change is risk.

>

> Listing what you really want in relationships is risk.

>

> Asking for it is horrible risk.

>

> Believing you deserve it, or might get it, is unimaginable.

>

> Think I ll just rest here.

>

> Screw it.

>

> Doug

>

> somebody asked about the effects of BP moms on sons? They screw us up

> for life.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Doug, sorry to hear the first session wasn't exactly inspiring. One thing

you wrote sure hit a resonant bell for me " I can't do the stuff T asks. " I've

had this problem too - it usually shows that the T doesn't know enough about me

yet. The question is do you want to work more with her so she will understand

where you need to start - or is she able to be open to new information about

you? Sometimes I've seen T's who might as well have told me " the solution to

your problem is to climb Mt. Everest " and I'm sitting there wondering do I have

to explain why I can't? is something wrong with me that I can't? is this

therapist showing a complete lack of understanding what I've already shared?

Anywho, please don't give up - healing can come in many forms.

>

> Depression sucks.

>

> So does therapy.

>

> It s too damn hard.

>

> I can t do the stuff T asks.

>

> I really don t believe it will work.

>

> Think I ll just hang where I am.

>

> I m comfortable with this level of pain.

>

> I despise change.

>

> I fear change.

>

> Change is risk.

>

> Listing what you really want in relationships is risk.

>

> Asking for it is horrible risk.

>

> Believing you deserve it, or might get it, is unimaginable.

>

> Think I ll just rest here.

>

> Screw it.

>

> Doug

>

> somebody asked about the effects of BP moms on sons? They screw us up

> for life.

>

[Guest guest]

Guys, thanks for your kind words and concern. No, I don t have the

wrong T. I ve had a relationship with this one for 5 years, and am

restarting again after a hiatus, because mostly of the depression. She

knows me, and my story very well. If not with her, then no one. I ll

never trust another one like this.

It s just the next step in front of me seems overwhelming. I m seriously

questioning if it is worth it to go on.

We ve talked by phone since earlier, and she s said don t try to swallow

it all at once. Just simple day to day stuff. Maybe I can. I don t

know. Some really fricking painful layers are about to be peeled back

if I go forward.

And I don t know if I m willing to risk it.

Doug

> >

> > Depression sucks.

> >

> > So does therapy.

> >

> > It s too damn hard.

> >

> > I can t do the stuff T asks.

> >

> > I really don t believe it will work.

> >

> > Think I ll just hang where I am.

> >

> > I m comfortable with this level of pain.

> >

> > I despise change.

> >

> > I fear change.

> >

> > Change is risk.

> >

> > Listing what you really want in relationships is risk.

> >

> > Asking for it is horrible risk.

> >

> > Believing you deserve it, or might get it, is unimaginable.

> >

> > Think I ll just rest here.

> >

> > Screw it.

> >

> > Doug

> >

> > somebody asked about the effects of BP moms on sons? They screw us

up

> > for life.

> >

>