bpd SIL moved out today...

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There was a terrible confrontation with her today. I am unbelievably sad for her

kids and what they are going to grow up in. Her kids are one and two and already

split good and bad. I am devastated for the two year old, whom I am very close

to and watch every day.

I keep feeling that my mother, whom they actually lived with (I live in a

different house on the land) may have been right about just bending over and

taking anything she dishes out no matter what in order to keep the kids here.

She got up and said " i'm leaving' for like the millionth time, and once I

realized she was really going I spoke my mind to her about alot of things. And

now I have this horrible guilt about how I should have begged her to stay for

the sake of the kids (in fairness I did ask her before I started if there was

anything at all I could say to make her stay...of course she said no because

she's been threatening to leave but it was just a matter of time.

But i just have this horrible codependency in me right now about how I should

have been completely humble and begged her to stay. and it terrifies me what her

kids are going to go through. I guess I would like to say if anyone can remember

me and those kids in their prayers it would be appreciated. because there is

really nothing anyone can do. it's done. I am so sad, not knowing if I did or

said the wrong or right thing or if it even matters at all. it was just a bad

day all around but now those precious kids are gone and they are not coming

back. it's such agony.