Re: grrr

[Guest guest]

Maybe...(and this is asking you to go into " therapist " mode)

send a reply asking her if there's something you did that makes her think that

you're not aware of that? (But that sounds sarcastic when written down, now

that I read it. Hm.) Maybe write: " What could I have done differently? " I'm

guessing that she'll probably reply, " Oh, don't mind me, I'm just going nuts

right now. " ...Possibly

I have a feeling that it will be rough going for you two if the company you both

work for is on shaky ground and might go under. Particularly if she IS the

company; the owner. An owner/boss will probably not act normally or even

rationally under those conditions. She may be in pure panic mode.

I hope it all works out OK for you. These are tough times.

-Annie

>

> okay guys, any tips on how to respond to this? Right now as I've said my

> boss is going through a rough time - controlling, micromanaging details and

> ignoring the big important stuff. I think due to her hardships at home - and

> the fact that our biz is falling apart.

>

> So anyway she just send me an e-mail to let me know that an RFP is

> confidential. DUH! I negotiated the confidentiality contract while she was

> on VACATION and sent it to her!!!

>

> So how to I respond. I'd really like to simply say " no shit, Sherlock. " or

> even more mature " no DUH "

>

> But is there a more mature way to handle it that you guys can help me come

> up with?

>

> Of course, she also asked me to work over a holiday weekend. . . which I'm

> willing to do. . but not if she is going to be what my boyfriend calls a

> Booger Mom.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah, its hard. I LOVE the company I work for. A small biz with an awesome

culture of creativity, they actually look for and hire weird, unique and

ecclectic people who bring fresh ideas. Though they freely admit I'm the

weirdest one they have ever had, ha ha. But things have been so shakey for

the last 3 years that I'm waiting for any moment the co to go under. In

fact, I dreamed last night that the place closed down and only my dept was

left.

I'm at peace with it. I'm open to other possibilities, though I'm not

actively looking for work (only because I'm spending my free time on my

therapy right now). As my T says, I'm at a crossroads. I'm strongly

considering going back to school to get a second master's in counseling or

social work. And then I'd like to go on to a PhD. I don't know why, its

just been one of my lifelong dreams to become a doctor, even if its just a

doctor of philosophy. And I LOVE school. Loved it loved it loved it when I

was in it. Miss it. I have to figure out how to afford it. . . but I just

have this feeling things are going to work out for me.

So anyway, I went through my time of panic and fear 3 years ago when the

economy crashed and my boyfriend lost his job and did unstable contract work

for 8 months - but I think it might just be hitting her fresh right now.

She doesnt' own the company, but she's worked there for 12 years. That's a

long time. . . Yeah, I still haven't responded. Not sure what to say. Other

than " Duh " ha ha ha can you imagine if I said that. It's not very nice.

On Sun, Oct 10, 2010 at 6:37 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> Maybe...(and this is asking you to go into " therapist " mode)

> send a reply asking her if there's something you did that makes her think

> that you're not aware of that? (But that sounds sarcastic when written down,

> now that I read it. Hm.) Maybe write: " What could I have done differently? "

> I'm guessing that she'll probably reply, " Oh, don't mind me, I'm just going

> nuts right now. " ...Possibly

>

> I have a feeling that it will be rough going for you two if the company you

> both work for is on shaky ground and might go under. Particularly if she IS

> the company; the owner. An owner/boss will probably not act normally or even

> rationally under those conditions. She may be in pure panic mode.

>

> I hope it all works out OK for you. These are tough times.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > okay guys, any tips on how to respond to this? Right now as I've said my

> > boss is going through a rough time - controlling, micromanaging details

> and

> > ignoring the big important stuff. I think due to her hardships at home -

> and

> > the fact that our biz is falling apart.

> >

> > So anyway she just send me an e-mail to let me know that an RFP is

> > confidential. DUH! I negotiated the confidentiality contract while she

> was

> > on VACATION and sent it to her!!!

> >

> > So how to I respond. I'd really like to simply say " no shit, Sherlock. "

> or

> > even more mature " no DUH "

> >

> > But is there a more mature way to handle it that you guys can help me

> come

> > up with?

> >

> > Of course, she also asked me to work over a holiday weekend. . . which

> I'm

> > willing to do. . but not if she is going to be what my boyfriend calls a

> > Booger Mom.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

could you be funny and say " yes of course...when I negotiated the

confindential contract last...week/month. I understood that it would be

confidential And maybe an LOL at the end...with a don't worry everything

is going to be fine?

On Sun, Oct 10, 2010 at 4:35 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

>

>

> okay guys, any tips on how to respond to this? Right now as I've said my

> boss is going through a rough time - controlling, micromanaging details and

> ignoring the big important stuff. I think due to her hardships at home -

> and

> the fact that our biz is falling apart.

>

> So anyway she just send me an e-mail to let me know that an RFP is

> confidential. DUH! I negotiated the confidentiality contract while she was

> on VACATION and sent it to her!!!

>

> So how to I respond. I'd really like to simply say " no shit, Sherlock. " or

> even more mature " no DUH "

>

> But is there a more mature way to handle it that you guys can help me come

> up with?

>

> Of course, she also asked me to work over a holiday weekend. . . which I'm

> willing to do. . but not if she is going to be what my boyfriend calls a

> Booger Mom.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Whether she's crazy, clingy, friendly, whatever - She is the boss, and this is a

business message. She is reminding you the RFP is confidential (sounds like

she's covering her behind, but OK). You already know this. Therefore, no

response is necessary.

It may be that part of the requirements for the RFP, or for the business

insurance, require that she show she's doing " due diligence " in having

confidentiality policies in place. Sending an email could be proof of that.

Who knows? Who cares?

This isn't about a friend acting weird. It's a thing from work - that place

where you get the money to buy the kibble. So if it really isn't a big deal,

let it go. If she starts doing it all the time, exercise your right to look for

another job. You really don't need a crazy boss in a shaky economy.

>

> okay guys, any tips on how to respond to this? Right now as I've said my

> boss is going through a rough time - controlling, micromanaging details and

> ignoring the big important stuff. I think due to her hardships at home - and

> the fact that our biz is falling apart.

>

> So anyway she just send me an e-mail to let me know that an RFP is

> confidential. DUH! I negotiated the confidentiality contract while she was

> on VACATION and sent it to her!!!

>

> So how to I respond. I'd really like to simply say " no shit, Sherlock. " or

> even more mature " no DUH "

>

> But is there a more mature way to handle it that you guys can help me come

> up with?

>

> Of course, she also asked me to work over a holiday weekend. . . which I'm

> willing to do. . but not if she is going to be what my boyfriend calls a

> Booger Mom.

>

>

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