Re: I don't trust myself...

[Guest guest]

Hi Shanes

I wish I could trust my boyfriend to keep my fave foods around. He eats a whole

cake in one day while I will eat a bit everyday. But I figure on doing what you

did - allow myself to drive down to the nearest store and buy some. It's a step

in the right direction to self trust. Or you can just keep buying them in bulk

until you forget they are there. I did that with chocolate sultana/nut mix. Went

through 3 packets, ate some every night for weeks then I got sick of them.

Fiona

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> On one hand, it's liberating knowing that I can eat the foods I want when I'm

hungry (in moderation of course). But it's annoying because I don't trust

myself enough to have to foods that I used to binge on in the house. Today

after work, before I went to the gym, I was legitimately hungry. I really

wanted a granola bar. but I used to eat a whole box in one sitting so I won't

keep them around. I had to stop at a gas station and get a single granola bar.

I just wish I could trust myself enough to keep certain foods around.

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[Guest guest]

HI McKella

Eating cookie dough (yum) reminded me of something that made me laugh. When I

was a kid my brother and I would beg mum to let us lick the bowl when she made a

cake. She was so stingy there was maybe 2 teaspoons of mix left. We'd whinge and

whine saying we could eat the whole mix. She didn't believe us. One day she said

OK go ahead, you will be sick, but we ate it all. I never enjoyed it so much!

And we didn't feel sick. Goes to show how deprivation can cause a bottomless

stomach early on.

Luckily I now have a partner who loves making cakes and will leave plenty in the

bowl as he knows that was a problem for me. He never restricts my food like my

mother did (and still tries to). I feel spoilt.

Fiona

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> > On one hand, it's liberating knowing that I can eat the foods I want when

I'm hungry (in moderation of course). But it's annoying because I don't trust

myself enough to have to foods that I used to binge on in the house. Today

after work, before I went to the gym, I was legitimately hungry. I really

wanted a granola bar. but I used to eat a whole box in one sitting so I won't

keep them around. I had to stop at a gas station and get a single granola bar.

I just wish I could trust myself enough to keep certain foods around.

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[Guest guest]

Shanes, why did you purchase just one granola bar when you could have purchased several if you had wanted at the time?

I'm thinking maybe if you tell yourself that there is no need to eat the entire box of granola bars at one setting because they'll still be there tomorrow or later when you choose to enjoy them. Maybe if you eat the bar mindfully, savoring the texture and taste of each bite that one bar may be all you need to satisfy and there won't be any need for you to polish off the entire box.

Hope this helps in some small way, Shanes, and remember to be gentle and patient with yourself.

Best wishes,

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

For me, personally, it has helped me to create a feeling of abundance around me. As long as I don't trust myself with something, the food (really the idea of it) has power over me.

It is challenging and scary to let go of control. But if I know that I have the special food easily accessible whenever I find I'm hungry for it, it usually ceases to be quite so powerful in a short amount of time.

Learning to trust ourselves is hard and scary... but isn't that sort of the point of intuitive eating? Believing that our bodies know what they are doing?

That said, rome wasn't built in a day. All this stuff takes time. Be patient with yourself.... but maybe try to imagine a day where you trust yourself?

Best,

Abby

 

I don't have a lot of things I like to eat in the house, for a lot of

reasons (cost, room, and yes, not completely trusting myself).  I feel

OK about it because I tell myself that if it's something I really want

I can go out and get it anytime, even if I have to pay more for it. 

I'm pretty cheap about food, so part of my IE work is telling myself

that if it's something I want to eat I should go ahead and get it, even

if it's more expensive than I'd usually spend.   The  other thing is

that I don't want boxes of food sitting around that I might not touch

for months.  Sometimes I think I want something and it turns out I

really don't.  If I want it enough to go out of my way to get it then I

guess I really do want it!

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