Re: I married a food pusher

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Thanks guys,

So I think I was venting last night-thanks for listening-and when I finally

calmed down enough to think straight, I made a list of solutions, and , I

did decide that maybe getting a light lemonade or something would be a good

option, because lemonade almost always sounds good to me and it won't fill me up

too much. Also, I could try suggesting other ways to spend time with him.

I know he pushes me around verbally sometimes, and I can't stand conflict so I

usually give into whatever it is. Buying something we don't need, eating when I

don't want to, etc. I've been working on being more assertive with him, so we'll

see how it goes. Thanks for being there!

>

> > Tonight after having a good time at a swimming pool, my husband

> > insisted we get something at 's and talk. We'd already eaten

> > dinner and I told him I wasn't hungry, but then he got all hurt and

> > pouty because eating is something we do together, and he's told me

> > in the past he finds it easier to loosen up and talk when we're out

> > at a restaurant or something, so we've worked out lots of problems

> > and discussed issues over many burritos and plates of pesto

> > tortellini in restaurants.

> > At 's, he kept reading things off the menu to me and whining

> > " this isn't that unhealthy, come on. " Finally I ordered a Frosty

> > and ate the whole thing because I had worked all day long and

> > hadn't had any time to myself and he was driving me crazy because

> > he was in a playful, silly, spend-money-and-eat-like-it's-going-out-

> > of-style-mood and I knew I had a messy apartment and a sinkful of

> > dishes waiting for me and then I'd have to wake up early and go to

> > work all over again.

> > Grrr. He pushes food as a way to bond, but I wasn't in a bonding

> > mood at all. I just wanted to be left alone. I feel like I can't

> > ask him for alone time or other things I need because he gets upset

> > and sulky, even if I try to tell him nicely, and not like I'm just

> > rejecting him or something. This happens a lot. I eat because I

> > feel like I have no choice and I hate to upset him.

> > Does anyone have any ideas?

> >

> > McKella

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