Re: Re: So emotional lately

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Well, menopause will force you to go through alot of emotional stuff

that is unrelated to reality and bring up issues you've been working on

stuffing probably for years. I found that co-dependency on kids (OMG,

I've REALLY been there) is another version of socially acceptable

addiction, just like food, dieting, and other obsessions. I read

Women, Food and God recently too, and she's right, dieting, food, and

even immersing yourself in Weight Watchers is just a form of

distraction from dealing with your emotional stuff. So, of course if

you take away your coping mechanism (eating or dieting or kid

obsession), life gets scary, boring or flat. At the moment I'm working

on trying to raise my energy so it's less flat and life is a little

more interesting. What will you use to fill that hole that

dieting/excessive eating leaves behind?

Dawn

Hi Dawn,

Yes I am approaching menopause (pre-menopausal now) and am having

issues with that. Yes, you hit that on the head. My daughter still

lives at home (she just turned 19) but she is having a lot of problems

lately that are weighing heavy on me. I am co-dependent so I have a

hard time not taking on her pain. You are very insightful. I too am new

to IE. I Read Women Food and God 2 weeks ago which has brought me to

this group and IE. I used to be very overweight but lost all my weight

(190lbs through diet and exercise) about 10 years ago and have kept it

off with the exception of 20lbs which I keep yo-yoing back and forth

with over the last 4 years. To tell you the truth even though I lost

the weight I never stopped using food and dieting as an escape. This is

a first for me.

Thank you for your insight.

Robin

> >

> > I have been doing very well with IE the last 4 days but I

have been on

> > the verge of tears and very depressed everyday but today. I

am finally

> > starting to come out of it. I think I have been Mourning

getting older

> > (my birthday is in a couple of weeks and I am going to be

48), Plus I

> > was feeling kind of flat and bored with life. Which is very

unlike me.

> > Today I do feel better though like I walked through a small

threshold

> > by not using food to mask my feelings. I VERY NEW thing for

me. Also

> > I'm not sure I know what to do with my time besides eat. I

guess I'll

> > learn.

> >

> > Has anyone else experienced this?

> >

> > Robin

> >

> >

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