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Hi Dawn,

What helps me in that instance would be to regularly ask myself questions that presume as true that which is not yet in evidence. For example, "Why do I lose weight so easily?,"Why am I so happy?," and "Why do I enjoy the weight loss successes of others?"

Such questions direct one's mind in the desired direction, supply material for further, more penetrating questions, and ultimately suggest actions that one could take from time to time in order to cement the new attitudes into one's consciousness.

Affirmations, in comparison, seem to be associated with internal rebellion far more often than attitudes changed properly.

best wishes always, and love besides,

Mike

PS A big problem of mine is stress eating. In response to the question "Why am I so calm in these maddening circumstances?" the thought came to me that maybe I could make a supplement concoction that would diminish eating stress. I did so, and it worked for me quite well. I think though that we're all individuals biochemically. I'd like to suggest for others here who eat in response to severe stress that you all try to make your *own* methods of lowering eating stress dramatically.

Subject: Re: Re: Hello, I'm New!To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 9:53 PM

and MJ,I don't know. I'm fighting the scale right now. Well, not me personally, but jealousy over someone elses non IE losses. She's lost 20 lbs in less time than it took me to lose about 13, and is crowing about it. I've got another friend who just started WW and both these women are all about the food and the portions, and would be horrified at the cookies I ate today. That said, I too am thinking of how to get people to not comment on how I look. A gal at church told me I looked wonderful and my inner voice said, "what she noticed that 15 lbs. Oh my, how bad you must have looked." and "Gee, thanks, I'm sure that really means I look horrid." Not that this lady meant either in actuality, but that one little comment that at first thrilled me, ended up feeling so negative.Dawn

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 1:14:16 PMSubject: Re: Hello, I'm New!

Hello & welcome to the group. I've found it to be a very supportive environment. You brought up something that I haven't figured out how to deal with yet. I just hate it when people comment on my "weight" or on whether I look like I've gained or even lost. I'm learning to tell them that I don't appreciate the comments. I'm also learning to not comment on other people's "losses". I used to think it would make them feel good but from being in the groups I've learned that not EVERYONE appreciates it so now I just say, "it's great to see YOU" & that covers it all. Since I have lost some weight in the past year or so, people who haven't seen me in a while often comment on it. I hasn't bothered me yet but if it starts to I'm going to tactfully ask people not to comment on my size. GEEEEESH, even the thought of that scares me. Does anyone else know how to respond to people who comment on weigh loss & then want to know how you

did it? I'm just not sure what to say to them.mj>> Hi I'm , I started Intuitive Eating about two months ago. I'm not really sure how this introduction is supposed to go... oh well!> I was on Weight Watchers over the summer, and it was going pretty well (in terms of weight loss)... but when I got back to school and the stress of everything started to pile up, I started to binge more frequently and couldn't handle having to count everything. I realized I needed to fix or change SOMETHING... I couldn't stand my relationship with food. > So I listened to the Intuitive Eating audio discs ( Tribole) and loved them. I even

got to see her in person when I was home for a break, which was great. It's going pretty well... food has for the most part lost the sense of forbidden excitement and I don't feel the same urgency to eat junk food that I used to when a binge was coming on. I guess my biggest problem right now is that I feel that I'm gaining weight. I've been staying away from the scale and trying not to judge myself.. but it's hard. I find myself wondering if I'm doing it right... isn't the weight gain supposed to STOP when you've embraced intuitive eating? I'm just having a difficult time right now, but I'm trying to stick with it because I know that's the only way it'll work. The problem is explaining it to my parents, who were so supportive of Weight Watchers, and are a little confused at what I'm doing right now. My dad, especially, notices and comments on any little weight fluctuation which REALLY needs to stop. > Any similar experiences or advice is

appreciated! > -michelle>

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