Cards/gifts during NC?

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Talking about Christmas the other day and my husband asked why I still feel a

duty to buy lots of gifts for FOO who are LC with us since my NC with nada. So I

was wondering what everyone else does?

This will be the second NC Christmas, last year I sent a box of 'family' gifts

for Nada, Dad and my little sister to share. Apparently Nada ripped it open

before Christmas (opening gifts early has never been a family tradition).

I just still feel the need to buy them all nice gifts but in the last few months

they have barely spoken to us and ignored our wedding anniversary and my

husbands birthday which really hurt me. When they do speak to me it is usually

my Dad who avoids the whole Nada and NC and talks about the dog (or my brother

who has cheated on his wife just before their first baby was born and has moved

in with my parents for a while).

Luckily we are going away for Christmas and get back just before Nadas birthday.

Part of me wants to 'act normal' and send the same amount of cards and gifts for

Christmas and birthdays but part of me dreads it. I am sure whatever I do Nada

will badmouth me.

Sorry for the long post, just venting! Would be good to hear what you all do

with NC and special occasions.

Free x