article: Borderline: Walking The Line by Hutson

[Guest guest]

Here is the link to a fairly short but very useful article in " Psychology Today "

that gives the main highlights about what its like to have a bpd person for a

parent (usually its the mother) and ways to handle it. Both Lawson

( " Understanding The Borderline MOther " and Randi Kreger ( " Stop Walking On

Eggshells " ) are quoted in the article.

Here's the link:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200707/borderline-walking-the-line

Although in some cases it is possible to maintain a relationship with a bpd

parent, that's not necessarily a healthy goal if the bpd individual is actively

hostile, abusive, or dangerous to you and your family. In that case, its more

important to protect yourself and your family from further abuse. If that means

going No Contact, or moving far away, or taking out a restraining order or

getting a lawyer to protect your safety and privacy, then, do what it takes.

But the article has some good insights and suggestions for establishing

boundaries and maintaining them if the bpd person is not an active threat or

danger to you and you want to try maintaining some contact.

-Annie