Trapped in a lie

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I had a mother who had severe symptoms of BPD and was never diagnosed. My

therpist helped me identify that is what she probably suffered from and really

helped me from that place. I have a daughter 38 who has just been diagnosed

(although I have know for some time). She has a son who will turn 18 in Nov and

she had him put in an institute a year ago. I was isolated from him because I

had the full truth of her half truths that got him put away. He is such a good

kid and grew up with much worse than I endured. When he turns 18 he will be out

of the " system " and pretty much dropped on his face. My duaghter called me about

3 weeks ago (I had not heard from her for months) to ask if I would go with her

to her therapist to explain her behavior because she finally realized she was

not functioning in a normal realm. Somewhere she read about BPD and said she

thought that was what she had. This was all brought on by her (third) husband

wanting a divorce. So I did. I was also allowed to see my 17 yr old grandson

in the institution where he is now. My heart aches because he is so extremely

over medicated. He raged when they admitted him. But he was 16 at the time and

what do you expect. You are put away by a crazy mother who has lied about

things you did! Now I am in a position I can help but I am not really sure

where to start. He is suppose to be out of the institution Oct 15 and he will

live with my ex. His mother and her 2 toddlers are also living there. I feel

crazy even trying to explain this. Does anyone have any advice? I will not

help my duaghter any more. Even with her revelation she is in a very unhealthy

place right now. I need to help my grandson. He has been accused of all kinds

of things, including forcing sex on 3 girls which I KNOW did not happen. They

has diagnosed him on his mother's stories. He is schizo-affective disorder.

But he is not!!!!!! He is trapped in a lie.

[Guest guest]

My goodness Becky this is so awful. I don't know that I really have an

answer for you. I would think that just being available to your grandson

is a huge step. maybe you can get an idea of what his needs are. Tell him

you understand and believe him. Be a source of comfort to him..and then

take it day by day from there.

I'm sorry I don't have any words of wisdom..it's such a sad situation. My

heart goes out to you and your grandson

Stefanie

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> I had a mother who had severe symptoms of BPD and was never diagnosed. My

> therpist helped me identify that is what she probably suffered from and

> really helped me from that place. I have a daughter 38 who has just been

> diagnosed (although I have know for some time). She has a son who will turn

> 18 in Nov and she had him put in an institute a year ago. I was isolated

> from him because I had the full truth of her half truths that got him put

> away. He is such a good kid and grew up with much worse than I endured. When

> he turns 18 he will be out of the " system " and pretty much dropped on his

> face. My duaghter called me about 3 weeks ago (I had not heard from her for

> months) to ask if I would go with her to her therapist to explain her

> behavior because she finally realized she was not functioning in a normal

> realm. Somewhere she read about BPD and said she thought that was what she

> had. This was all brought on by her (third) husband wanting a divorce. So I

> did. I was also allowed to see my 17 yr old grandson in the institution

> where he is now. My heart aches because he is so extremely over medicated.

> He raged when they admitted him. But he was 16 at the time and what do you

> expect. You are put away by a crazy mother who has lied about things you

> did! Now I am in a position I can help but I am not really sure where to

> start. He is suppose to be out of the institution Oct 15 and he will live

> with my ex. His mother and her 2 toddlers are also living there. I feel

> crazy even trying to explain this. Does anyone have any advice? I will not

> help my duaghter any more. Even with her revelation she is in a very

> unhealthy place right now. I need to help my grandson. He has been accused

> of all kinds of things, including forcing sex on 3 girls which I KNOW did

> not happen. They has diagnosed him on his mother's stories. He is

> schizo-affective disorder. But he is not!!!!!! He is trapped in a lie.

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