Guest guest Posted October 17, 2010 Report Share Posted October 17, 2010 Hi,Freegletime,and welcome You only learned about BPD today? There's alot to take in--we're a friendly bunch here,just jump right in with your thoughts if there's a topic that resonates with you or please feel free to ask any questions if you'd like.Many of us here have also had to refuse contact with our Borderline mothers for the sake of our own sanity--you are not alone! > > Hello everyone, I am new and not sure what the procedure is on here so thought would use the intro list someone else posted! > > > 1 - Your sex: Female > > 2 - Your age: 34 > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother: think my Mother is > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s): 52 > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD: today! > > I have been reading about BPD today and find myself thinking this is my Mother. I am dealing with the situation by refusing all contact, I just don't know what to do to be honest but am now starting to get my life back, trying to lose weight,take more exercise and enjoy life without her. Some days it is really hard and I have found myself withdrawing from things. Almost like I am afraid to do anything in case it is wrong or right! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2010 Report Share Posted October 17, 2010 Hello there fellow sufferer: My name is and my Dad is a BPD'er. Oh god do I know how you feel about withdrawing from stuff. I live with my Dad and am totally dependent on him at 33years old. He destroyed my life and tells me I deserved it, isolated me from the rest of the family and I am the only one who has any contact with him. I have no family contact, friends, car, income, assets, healthcare. It's horrible but I am trying to keep information about my future plans from him and it's damn near impossible but I'm doing it. My plan is to run screaming as soon as I get a job here in Michigan. So, how are you doing surviving from your Mom? I'd like to know. > > Hello everyone, I am new and not sure what the procedure is on here so thought would use the intro list someone else posted! > > > 1 - Your sex: Female > > 2 - Your age: 34 > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother: think my Mother is > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s): 52 > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD: today! > > I have been reading about BPD today and find myself thinking this is my Mother. I am dealing with the situation by refusing all contact, I just don't know what to do to be honest but am now starting to get my life back, trying to lose weight,take more exercise and enjoy life without her. Some days it is really hard and I have found myself withdrawing from things. Almost like I am afraid to do anything in case it is wrong or right! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2010 Report Share Posted October 17, 2010 Hi , well it has been 16 months since having any face to face contact, however I have received sms, emails, messages via other family members. It has been the worst and best time of my life. For the first four months I felt so free, back to ideal dream weight, healthy, happy, confident - but then received a horrible email which broke my heart and made me realise there is no going back. I spoke to my Dad about it and he had read it,.this shocked me more than anything else as I could not believe he would let her speak to a piece of dirt like that let alone their daughter. So then life became pretty dark, I withdrew. My little sister doesn't even keep in touch much anymore, she still lives at home with them and is 17. I live almost 3 hour drive from them. Dad has quite LC with me. I am lucky to have my husband and now to have found all of you as I felt like I was crazy. Reading everyone's comments and how understanding you all are is so lovely but also heartbreaking that there are so many of us. Well done for being strong , you can do this. I feel that keeping myself healthy breaks.the sadness and helps me to sleep better and feel better and now I have found this group I can begin to understand more. Thank you for the warm welcome! > > > > Hello everyone, I am new and not sure what the procedure is on here so thought would use the intro list someone else posted! > > > > > 1 - Your sex: Female > > > 2 - Your age: 34 > > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother: think my Mother is > > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s): 52 > > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD: today! > > > > I have been reading about BPD today and find myself thinking this is my Mother. I am dealing with the situation by refusing all contact, I just don't know what to do to be honest but am now starting to get my life back, trying to lose weight,take more exercise and enjoy life without her. Some days it is really hard and I have found myself withdrawing from things. Almost like I am afraid to do anything in case it is wrong or right! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2010 Report Share Posted October 17, 2010 Thank you , yes just found out about BPD so feeling very strange/relieved/tearful! So surprised to find similarities with behavior and NC techniques it is really helpful. > > > > Hello everyone, I am new and not sure what the procedure is on here so thought would use the intro list someone else posted! > > > > > 1 - Your sex: Female > > > 2 - Your age: 34 > > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother: think my Mother is > > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s): 52 > > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD: today! > > > > I have been reading about BPD today and find myself thinking this is my Mother. I am dealing with the situation by refusing all contact, I just don't know what to do to be honest but am now starting to get my life back, trying to lose weight,take more exercise and enjoy life without her. Some days it is really hard and I have found myself withdrawing from things. Almost like I am afraid to do anything in case it is wrong or right! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2010 Report Share Posted October 18, 2010 Welcome to the group and sorry that you struggle with a bpd parent in your life. It sounds like you have taken some steps to separate yourself from your parent's mental illness already. Good for you for taking care of yourself. I am sorry your enmeshed father did not stick up for you when you needed him to. I know that hurt all too well. I found, as I first started separating/unenmeshing myself from my bpd mother/nada, she became worse with much more bizarre behavior and lashed out at me in ways I could have never imagined. She also stalked me for awhile. It does get better though. Stand your ground and keep demanding that they treat you with only respect or walk away. Blessings and welcome again. patinage > > Hello everyone, I am new and not sure what the procedure is on here so thought would use the intro list someone else posted! > > > 1 - Your sex: Female > > 2 - Your age: 34 > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother: think my Mother is > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s): 52 > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD: today! > > I have been reading about BPD today and find myself thinking this is my Mother. I am dealing with the situation by refusing all contact, I just don't know what to do to be honest but am now starting to get my life back, trying to lose weight,take more exercise and enjoy life without her. Some days it is really hard and I have found myself withdrawing from things. Almost like I am afraid to do anything in case it is wrong or right! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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