Re: need to re-focus

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Hello Don't feel bad, feel victorious! it may sound mad but you should. The stress you have undergone has given you signs that your in need of a new way of dealing with work & family issues. See this as time to challenge old ways of acting, failure after all is simply a state of mind. Your center is where you left it, I am sure in no time at all you will be mindful of it once again. I wish you luck as requested. Pam

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Hi, dear Joy,

I love Pam's suggestion that "your center is where you left it". . . brilliant!

What I tell myself when I lose my way with IE is that all I have to do is wait until I'm hungry to eat next time, and poof! I'm back on track (even if I have to repeat this new "first time" ad nauseam).

I also tell myself that if I find myself eating when I'm not hungry, it's proof that I need more self care. For me, it is crucial to interrupt the crazy expectations I put on myself and to take time to relax, refresh, play, and enjoy with gratitude what I have in my life that is special and beautiful. This (thank goodness) can be done in mini-doses and doesn't need to entail an all-day bubble bath and champagne extravaganza. This morning as I left for work, feeling down, I paused to spend a little time with each one of my dogs, kissed my husband playfully three times instead of the usual once, and stopped for a minute in our back yard to look at a rosebush and wonderful rabbit statue I bought to honor my dog who recently passed away. Just those few stops made me feel centered and ready to take on my day.

You've made it through a stressful time with only a few chunks out of you, so hurrah for you! Take some notes for next time and realize that everyone gets wacky when under stress. My goal is only to try to move in a generally less wacky direction. I'm betting if you look back on this period, you'll see that you were WAY less wacky than you've sometimes been in the past, which is progress! Like Pema Chodron says: Two steps forward, two steps back. Four steps forward, three steps back: YAY!

Laurie

need to re-focus

Haven't posted in a while. Began doing IE last spring and was feeling fabulous. I think I lost a bit; but most importantly I was not food obsessed, ate mindfully, no "last supper" binging and surprisingly no crazy restricting before a vacation and no crazy eating during the vacation!

Then September came with a great deal of work and family stress. IE went out the window. I lost my center, I reverted back to the "diet mentality", and gained weight. I feel really bad right now. It's hard not feel like a failure, which triggers all sorts of unhealthy stuff for me.I am doing all that I can to find my way back; using this group for support, yoga and reading IE based books.

I can't wait to feel that light, confident and centered me again! Wish me luck, and a big thank you for the support!

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Hello ,

Welcome back to IE welcome back to your Self, your center which is, as Pam so

aptly stated, " exactly where you left it. " I just love that. It's so wonderful

to be able to read the posts here. I got so much out of Pam & Laurie's responses

to you. Every moment seems to be an opportunity to connect & to learn from all

of the experiences of people who have chosen THIS path. Thank you.

mj

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> Hi, dear Joy,

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> I love Pam's suggestion that " your center is where you left it " . . .

brilliant!

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> What I tell myself when I lose my way with IE is that all I have to do is wait

until I'm hungry to eat next time, and poof! I'm back on track (even if I have

to repeat this new " first time " ad nauseam).

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> I also tell myself that if I find myself eating when I'm not hungry, it's

proof that I need more self care. For me, it is crucial to interrupt the crazy

expectations I put on myself and to take time to relax, refresh, play, and enjoy

with gratitude what I have in my life that is special and beautiful. This (thank

goodness) can be done in mini-doses and doesn't need to entail an all-day bubble

bath and champagne extravaganza. This morning as I left for work, feeling down,

I paused to spend a little time with each one of my dogs, kissed my husband

playfully three times instead of the usual once, and stopped for a minute in our

back yard to look at a rosebush and wonderful rabbit statue I bought to honor my

dog who recently passed away. Just those few stops made me feel centered and

ready to take on my day.

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> You've made it through a stressful time with only a few chunks out of you, so

hurrah for you! Take some notes for next time and realize that everyone gets

wacky when under stress. My goal is only to try to move in a generally less

wacky direction. I'm betting if you look back on this period, you'll see that

you were WAY less wacky than you've sometimes been in the past, which is

progress! Like Pema Chodron says: Two steps forward, two steps back. Four steps

forward, three steps back: YAY!

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> Haven't posted in a while. Began doing IE last spring and was feeling

fabulous. I think I lost a bit; but most importantly I was not food obsessed,

ate mindfully, no " last supper " binging and surprisingly no crazy restricting

before a vacation and no crazy eating during the vacation!

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> Then September came with a great deal of work and family stress. IE went out

the window. I lost my center, I reverted back to the " diet mentality " , and

gained weight. I feel really bad right now. It's hard not feel like a failure,

which triggers all sorts of unhealthy stuff for me.I am doing all that I can to

find my way back; using this group for support, yoga and reading IE based books.

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> I can't wait to feel that light, confident and centered me again! Wish me

luck, and a big thank you for the support!

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