Re: taking time

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Abby,Thank you for reply. I thought about what you wrote about distractions, and mostly, how you said you don't want to go back to eating mindlessly. That is so amazing and wonderful. I think this is so key for me. I "think" I love food - yet I whizz right through a meal so quickly. I worked hard today not to do this. Boy, is it hard. Came home, did stop and notice I was hungry - about a "5" and gave myself permission to eat a nice piece of yummy cornbread WITH HONEY nonetheless. Put it on a nice little plate, considered reading the mail while I ate it - BUT DIDN'T, but then had eaten almost the whole thing by the time I sat down to eat it. Wow - it was almost gone, just walking out of the kitchen to sit down. I do this so often - then of course, there is no real satisfaction and that is when I wanted to RUSH and just eat another piece. It's like the first piece hasn't even registered because I just wolfed it down! This is a challenge - but a good one. I am up for it. I will continue to try. I send my best,p Hi ,Thanks for sharing your morning with us. I think you did an awesome thing for yourself, taking a morning off and treating yourself to huckleberries and the foods you wanted most... and not sugary granola, when you really thought about it! And yes, it's GREAT to talk about foods here! We love food, and celebrate how fabulous it is! IE gives us the chance to figure out what we really enjoy eating, and to revel in eating it... when we are hungry... which is when it tastes best, anyway! I think IE is all about self care. If we take care of ourselves we won't need to turn to food to "take care of us" -- i put it in quotes because of course food doesn't really care for us. But it can feel like a substitute for self-care for sure! As for sitting quietly for eating... I used to always ALWAYS read while eating. But now I've switched out of the habit and don't even want to go back. I run a VERY busy clinic and i used to write notes while I was eating. now i stop and eat, in the midst of the hubub, and do nothing BUT eat. i may get interrupted but I still go back to eating without distraction. it's beautiful. and you know, i think taking a real break actually makes me more effective and efficient later on. so it's a good investment. it's neat to feel a bubble of stillness around me in the craziness of the day. Thanks again for writing.best,abbyOn Tue, Jun 1, 2010 at 9:42 AM, ette <plawrencecyberport (DOT) net> wrote: I am a new member to the group - though not to obsessing about weight issues. I don't know if it is okay to talk about specific foods - if I remember right some group I was in somewhere along this journey many years ago forbid that (OA?). I declared this as a day to practice self-care! I called in sick to work - something I hardly ever, ever do - and even exaggerated a small headache to my husband as an excuse to stay home. I am ticking things off my to-do list which feels good and catching up on the Intuitive Eating posts. Hunger hits! What do I want? What do I REALLY want? Sugary granola which I hardly ever let myself eat? No, something HOT. Okay - steel cut oats with flax seed. Into that I add about 1/8 cup of huckleberries. For those of you who don't know what those are: they are GOLD. Takes forever to pick about a cup - they are about 1/5th the size of a smallish blueberry. I NEVER eat them unless I am making something for my family (who also helps pick though not as fast as I!). I feel a bit guilty but know I will love every tiny one. I chop up a few walnuts and add a BIG spoonful of almond butter. Onto all that I add milk that I have HEATED up - who ever has time for THAT on typical mornings getting everyone, including me, out the door. For heaven's sake: I even heat up my bowl! My pattern is to read when eating - but NO. I sit my butt down in the rocking chair and chew slowly as I watch the birds feed from the feeder. I contemplate about how much I yearn for inner peace - and enjoy this simple bowl of food. I think about how I crave inner peace - but rarely make the time for it. How weird is that? For a time I used to fantasize about what I would do if I won the lottery. I would go on and on and on in my mind about all the things I would do. I REALLY wanted that money. One time I told my husband all about it and he said "have you ever even bought a lotto ticket?" No. I haven't. So how could I ever really expect to win all that money if I never bought a ticket?!! I guess the same is true for the inner workings of the heart I want: peace, intuition, comfort, strength, self-acceptance. I must be still and pay attention - and not run around like a chicken with my head cut off, ESPECIALLY AT MEAL TIME. If I really want those virtues, and I do, then I must make time for them. And meals seem the perfect time to practice "not running around and away." At least for this day! I love everyone's posts - thank you. I send my best, p

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lesliep,i read somewhere, i forget where, that for people who struggle with eating for the wrong reasons... they may think longingly about food all the time... except when they are actually eating it! then they are just shoveling it down without even tasting the food!

this struck a real chord with me. good for you for recognizing what happened with your cornbread. next time maybe you will be able to resist eating until you are able to really sit down and savor it.

not always easy! i don't always suceed but i'm a million times better than i was!best,abby 

 

Abby,Thank you for reply. I thought about what you wrote about distractions, and mostly, how you said you don't want to go back to eating mindlessly.  That is so amazing and wonderful. I think this is so key for me. I " think " I love food - yet I whizz right through a meal so quickly. I worked hard today not to do this. Boy, is it hard. Came home, did stop and notice I was hungry - about a " 5 " and gave myself permission to eat a nice piece of yummy cornbread WITH HONEY nonetheless. Put it on a nice little plate, considered reading the mail while I ate it - BUT DIDN'T, but then had eaten almost the whole thing by the time I sat down to eat it.  Wow - it was almost gone, just walking out of the kitchen to sit down. I do this so often - then of course, there is no real satisfaction and that is when I wanted to RUSH and just eat another piece.  It's like the first piece hasn't even registered because I just wolfed it down!  

This is a challenge - but a good one. I am up for it. I will continue to try. I send my best,p

  Hi ,Thanks for sharing your morning with us. I think you did an awesome thing for yourself, taking a morning off and treating yourself to huckleberries and the foods you wanted most... and not sugary granola, when you really thought about it!

And yes, it's GREAT to talk about foods here! We love food, and celebrate how fabulous it is! IE gives us the chance to figure out what we really enjoy eating, and to revel in eating it... when we are hungry... which is when it tastes best, anyway!

I think IE is all about self care. If we take care of ourselves we won't need to turn to food to " take care of us " -- i put it in quotes because of course food doesn't really care for us. But it can feel like a substitute for self-care for sure!

As for sitting quietly for eating... I used to always ALWAYS read while eating. But now I've switched out of the habit and don't even want to go back. I run a VERY busy clinic and i used to write notes while I was eating. now i stop and eat, in the midst of the hubub, and do nothing BUT eat. i may get interrupted but I still go back to eating without distraction. it's beautiful. and you know, i think taking a real break actually makes me more effective and efficient later on. so it's a good investment. it's neat to feel a bubble of stillness around me in the craziness of the day.

Thanks again for writing.best,abby

  I am a new member to the group - though not to obsessing about weight issues. I don't know if it is okay to talk about specific foods - if

I remember right some group I was in somewhere along this journey many years ago forbid that (OA?). I declared this as a day to practice self-care! I called in sick to work - something I hardly ever, ever do - and even exaggerated a

small headache to my husband as an excuse to stay home. I am ticking things off my to-do list which feels good and catching up on the Intuitive Eating posts. Hunger hits! What do I want? What do I REALLY want? Sugary granola

which I hardly ever let myself eat? No, something HOT. Okay - steel cut oats with flax seed. Into that I add about 1/8 cup of huckleberries. For those of you who don't know what those are: they are GOLD. Takes forever to pick about a cup - they are about 1/5th

the size of a smallish blueberry. I NEVER eat them unless I am making something for my family (who also helps pick though not as fast as I!). I feel a bit guilty but know I will love every tiny one. I chop

up a few walnuts and add a BIG spoonful of almond butter. Onto all that I add milk that I have HEATED up - who ever has time for THAT on typical mornings getting everyone, including me, out the door. For

heaven's sake: I even heat up my bowl! My pattern is to read when eating - but NO. I sit my butt down in the rocking chair and chew slowly as I watch the birds feed from the feeder. I contemplate about how much I yearn for inner peace - and

enjoy this simple bowl of food. I think about how I crave inner peace - but rarely make the time for it. How weird is that? For a time I used to fantasize about what I would do if I won the lottery. I would go on and on and on in my mind about all the things I would

do. I REALLY wanted that money. One time I told my husband all about it and he said " have you ever even bought a lotto ticket? " No. I haven't. So how could I ever really expect to win all that money

if I never bought a ticket?!! I guess the same is true for the inner workings of the heart I want: peace, intuition, comfort, strength, self-acceptance. I must be still and pay attention - and not run around like a chicken with my

head cut off, ESPECIALLY AT MEAL TIME. If I really want those virtues, and I do, then I must make time for them. And meals seem the perfect time to practice " not running around and away. " At least

for this day! I love everyone's posts - thank you. I send my best, p