Extended Family

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I am new to this site and I just want to say thank you so much to everyone who

posts and comments. I am so comforted and educated by all of you and I am glad

to have found you.

I believe my Mom has BPD. I am an only child and my parents got divorced when I

was 6. My whole life had been one on one with her. So naturally I always

believed that there was something wrong with me that I could make my own Mom

that miserable and angry. I have a lot of questions but today I have one big

concern. I have only just started reading " Stop Walking on Egg Shells " and in

one week I am going to go on a weekend with my cousins. I am scared because as

of now I am the only person to have come to the conclusion that my Mom has BPD

(through my therapist) and though it has brought me so much relief the rest of

my family, like grandparents and my aunts and cousins are not ok with thinking

there might be what they consider a mental problem in our family. I have not

pushed the idea because the book said to be careful here. But I have been told

that the boundaries I have tried to set in place with my Mom are tearing apart

my whole family and are the reason she is so upset. (Bringing it back to being

my fault) And I know that this is how most of my family feels. Needless to say

I have no self of steam and care a lot about what these people think about me.

I am in a very vulnerable place at the moment and I am scared to go on this

cousins weekend. At the same time I love my cousins and I want to share in this

weekend and not let my Mom problems dictate what I do anymore. Well I guess

what I am asking is if there is any advice to allow me to enjoy my family, with

out letting their feelings on how I choose to work with my Mom cause me pain or

make me change what I feel is the right thing to do with her?

Thanks again every one. Em