Re: my dad went NC with me!

[Guest guest]

I am sorry to hear Hummingbird.

More often than once, I have seen my father acting in ways that were totally

irational, and resembled my BP Mother's behaviour.

Many times I think he grew so frustrated of her, and because he cannot express

his anger at her, I would get it.

These episodes were heartbreaking to me, because my Mom has always been the

crazy irrational one, not my Dad. So when he would act that way, I felt like

there was nothing I could count on.

I think you dream is very interesting. I read that in dreams, people can be

different parts of you. Maybe you grandma is actually that part of you that

doesn't want you to cry. But you need it I am sure.

Maybe your dream represents your conflict around being sad and allowing yourself

to be sad about what happend with your Dad.

It seems to me that you need to cry. It is hurtful. I am an adult too, but it

hurts when my BP Mom acts crazy and irrational. It is human.

Ideally, we want to detach, be less affected, but it's a process.