Welcome new members

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group. You've found a bunch of people who totally get the kind

of issues you're going through with your bpd parent or parents, and what kinds

of things you experienced as a child.

Each of us is on our own journey to healing and wholeness, and we share what's

working and not working for us on this journey. Bpd symptoms and behaviors can

manifest in really different ways from person to person, so, handling your

current relationship with your bpd parent and healing from the damage inflicted

on you during your formative years is going to vary a lot too.

But it really does help to know that other people have experienced the kinds of

mistreatment that you've experienced by having a personality-disordered parent:

that its not just you. I know that was a very eye opening and supportive

discovery for me, anyway. I wasn't the only one who was suffering because my

mother is so hard to please, and can be normal sometimes and yet turn on a dime

and be so hateful and toxic at other times.

Some KOs, (adult children of bpd parents) can manage having a relationship with

their bpd parent by maintaining Limited Contact (or Low Contact) and

setting/enforcing strict boundaries (rules of engagement), but others of us

can't do that for one reason or another and its healthier to go No Contact. Its

a purely individual choice, based on your needs and what's healthier for you.

Educating yourself about the disorder is very helpful. There are a lot of good

books out there now about borderline pd, and how to protect yourself and set

boundaries for yourself with your bpd parent.

There is a section in the " Files " of this Group that lists what the various

jargon terms mean, such as " nada " (short for " not a mom " , a mom with borderline

pd) and " FOG " (Fear-Obligation-Guilt).

So, welcome, and best of luck on your own journey to peace and healing.

-Annie