Is it safe for her to watch my kids?

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My mother has not been violent with her BPD, just emotionally abusive and

volatile. Children can be targets; she says mean things that make them cry.

Are my kids safe with her? She zones out and has admitted to forgetting they

were with her in the car at a store. She, of course, does not respect my

boundaries or requests very well.

At the same time, she is good with children in general and they seem very happy

with her. I have her watch them at my home now and for short time periods once

a week only. It is her " joy in life " to see them.

CAN I CONTINUE TO LET HER BABYSIT?

(She is so much worse now since my step-dad died. Will she get better or spiral

out of control?)