Today is 51 days NC with my nada

[Guest guest]

My NC is working out a lot better than I thought it would...

What tipped me off to the amount of days since I last called her- I

called my cell phone provider to review my plan to see if I could lower

my bill. The CSR looked at my usage, and she goes- " Oh my! You've gone

from using 2000 minutes a month to barely using 100 minutes!! " I was

happy to change my plan to one with a lower amount of minutes and save

$$. I was amazed at the " hard data " as to how much time I spent monthly

listening to my mother's angry tirades, etc.

At first, going NC felt like I was doing something " bad " to my mother.

She's called my work number, ranting and raving. The last few messages

she left, I deleted without even listening to them. A busy body friend

of hers has called my work number three times- I also delete hers

without listening to them. Since my mom is still in limited contact with

my brother, I have settled myself with the thought- " If she's sick or

dying, my brother would contact me. "

Let me tell you about the big piece of drama I've had over the last 51

days:

I ordered a sweater from an on-line place. It was backordered. The

company sent me an email, stating the sweater would not be available

until January. I decided to leave the backorder, and I ordered another

sweater from them, since it will get cold at some point in Colorado

(today's high was 78.) I get the shipping notice from the new sweater,

yay me, it will arrive in three days.

The next day, I get another email from customer service- my backorder

was fullfilled, and this sweater will arrive the same day as the new

sweater I ordered!!

Yes. That's simple drama I can handle. I now see how much drama, as

well as emotional manipulation my mother has stirred up for me- and not

just in the last 13 years, but for my entire life.

I know there will be other life drama. I am trusting in the universe, in

that future life drama will be " real, " not concocted drama with the plan

to emotionally manipulate me.

[Guest guest]

Congratulations to you Sunny! When sweater ordering snafus represents your big

stress you know things are going well. It's amazing to think that many people

have *entire lives* like this.

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>

> My NC is working out a lot better than I thought it would...

>

> What tipped me off to the amount of days since I last called her- I

> called my cell phone provider to review my plan to see if I could lower

> my bill. The CSR looked at my usage, and she goes- " Oh my! You've gone

> from using 2000 minutes a month to barely using 100 minutes!! " I was

> happy to change my plan to one with a lower amount of minutes and save

> $$. I was amazed at the " hard data " as to how much time I spent monthly

> listening to my mother's angry tirades, etc.

>

> At first, going NC felt like I was doing something " bad " to my mother.

> She's called my work number, ranting and raving. The last few messages

> she left, I deleted without even listening to them. A busy body friend

> of hers has called my work number three times- I also delete hers

> without listening to them. Since my mom is still in limited contact with

> my brother, I have settled myself with the thought- " If she's sick or

> dying, my brother would contact me. "

>

> Let me tell you about the big piece of drama I've had over the last 51

> days:

>

> I ordered a sweater from an on-line place. It was backordered. The

> company sent me an email, stating the sweater would not be available

> until January. I decided to leave the backorder, and I ordered another

> sweater from them, since it will get cold at some point in Colorado

> (today's high was 78.) I get the shipping notice from the new sweater,

> yay me, it will arrive in three days.

>

> The next day, I get another email from customer service- my backorder

> was fullfilled, and this sweater will arrive the same day as the new

> sweater I ordered!!

>

> Yes. That's simple drama I can handle. I now see how much drama, as

> well as emotional manipulation my mother has stirred up for me- and not

> just in the last 13 years, but for my entire life.

>

> I know there will be other life drama. I am trusting in the universe, in

> that future life drama will be " real, " not concocted drama with the plan

> to emotionally manipulate me.

>

[Guest guest]

I bet that feels very freeing and empowering to you to un-enmesh yourself like

that! May all your dramas be as mild and easily resolved as the sweater issue.

-Annie

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>

> My NC is working out a lot better than I thought it would...

>

> What tipped me off to the amount of days since I last called her- I

> called my cell phone provider to review my plan to see if I could lower

> my bill. The CSR looked at my usage, and she goes- " Oh my! You've gone

> from using 2000 minutes a month to barely using 100 minutes!! " I was

> happy to change my plan to one with a lower amount of minutes and save

> $$. I was amazed at the " hard data " as to how much time I spent monthly

> listening to my mother's angry tirades, etc.

>

> At first, going NC felt like I was doing something " bad " to my mother.

> She's called my work number, ranting and raving. The last few messages

> she left, I deleted without even listening to them. A busy body friend

> of hers has called my work number three times- I also delete hers

> without listening to them. Since my mom is still in limited contact with

> my brother, I have settled myself with the thought- " If she's sick or

> dying, my brother would contact me. "

>

> Let me tell you about the big piece of drama I've had over the last 51

> days:

>

> I ordered a sweater from an on-line place. It was backordered. The

> company sent me an email, stating the sweater would not be available

> until January. I decided to leave the backorder, and I ordered another

> sweater from them, since it will get cold at some point in Colorado

> (today's high was 78.) I get the shipping notice from the new sweater,

> yay me, it will arrive in three days.

>

> The next day, I get another email from customer service- my backorder

> was fullfilled, and this sweater will arrive the same day as the new

> sweater I ordered!!

>

> Yes. That's simple drama I can handle. I now see how much drama, as

> well as emotional manipulation my mother has stirred up for me- and not

> just in the last 13 years, but for my entire life.

>

> I know there will be other life drama. I am trusting in the universe, in

> that future life drama will be " real, " not concocted drama with the plan

> to emotionally manipulate me.

>