Re: Jane and Beth

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Jane

Yes, mental strain can do lots of things. Reread what you just posted

too, Jane. You know thats too much. You need to space and balance and

maintain taking proper care of Jane as priority number one. Only you can

figure out the proper balance but I can tell in your post you know you

have a bit much this week.

Beth

I was told to limit treadmill to every other day. Not sure if that makes

sense or is right for you either. I think you, like all of us, need to

continue to weigh the physical tolls and the emotional ones on our well

being. You commented on the strain of dealing with Virginia and

repeating things but I heard more strain coming from not being able to

get her where you feel she belongs. Regardless, just accept that you're

doing a great deal to make her life better, and you're doing al you can.

However, recognize if you find you have too much on your plate at any

point and keep Beth number one.

Now, I don't know how things work for others but I find I try to do a

lot of " every other day " scheduling. If I have several things planned in

a day (whether pleasure or doctor) then I try not to back that up with

another such day. If I'm out today running around town and picking up

things I need, then, tomorrow, I'll still get out briefly, but I'll plan

to spend more of the day doing things around my apartment. I just find

back to back heavy days make the second day a bit much. Meanwhile, give

me an easy day in between and I'm ready for more. I found the same thing

even on my long trip. I also found, and this may be because I'm use to

living alone, that after a couple of days with family, I needed an

evening to just collapse and rest alone. Sitting and carrying on

conversations all evening could get to be a bit taxing. I even took one

afternoon and night traveling from one to the other, when I could have

gone all the way, just to relax in a hotel, all to myself, peace and

quiet.

> > >

> > > Good evening from North Carolina!

> > > Just wanted to say hey and see how everyone is tonight. I hope

> > there were lots of fun weekends throughout our group. I spent

> > some relatively quiet time in the last couple of days. I've been

> > tired and very achey for the last little bit. The rash on my hands

is

> > acting up and the itching makes me want to lop off my hands with a

> > cleaver (ok I know that's a little dramatic but y'all get the

> > picture.) I've also been coughing a little more than usual and have

> > been needing a bit more oxygen which of course makes me nervous. I'm

> > not too worried. If these kind of low grade symptoms continue for

> > another couple of days I'll call the doctor... ..we'll see what

> > happens.

> > > Sometimes I wonder if I'm pushing a little too hard, I'm working 3

> > days a week taking care of the elderly mother of a friend (but on

> > those 3 days I only work about 4 hours each day) and then using the

> > treadmill 5 days a week. I do have my parents 50th wedding

> > anniversary party coming up for which I'm doing most of the planning

> > and coordinating. It's not physical work, just mental (which

> > probably explains why it's so exhausting for me LOL)

> > > OK I'll stop babbling now, just wanted to say hey

> > to everyone! Enjoy the rest of the evening!

> > > Beth

> > > Age 48 Fibrotic NSIP 06/06 UCTD 07/08

> > >

> > > Change everything. Love and Forgive

> > >

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