work parking lot bully

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Hi everyone,

I'm relatively new to a job in a large building. There are security guards that

cover both the building and the lot. One of them has decided to start picking

on me. The first time, I had parked in a spot he did not like--there was no

sign and the curb was white. It was a legal spot. He just didn't want me

there. He watched me get out of my car, then accosted me (alone of course) in

the hall, and told me the rule was I couldn't park there, and acted like I was

very bad and discourteous to others for doing so. Not knowing yet that he was a

bully, I was contrite.

But I realized after it was a classic bullying encounter. Now, Friday, I was

parked on the street outside of our lot. He approached a sweet young intern of

ours, and had her relay a message to me to move my car. This was legal street

parking, not on building property. He just wanted me to move the car because it

was a convenient spot--'they changed the rule' is what the intern was directed

to tell me. I did not move the car.

I know this is only two incidents, but I FEEL the bully in it and I know he's

doing so. I am very courteous and law abiding and follow all signs in the lot,

even just the company policy signs that are not legally enforceable. I follow

the painted curbs and the city's signs, too. This guy is making stuff up. He

is bullying because I seem sweet and small in stature.

I have a speech planned for if he accosts me again today or this week. But I am

more stressed and scared about this than I understood. I think this was a large

part of my big dissociation this weekend. This man is a security guard--he

could not get me fired, but my tags are expried (remember, I'm saving up to

update them but am in crisis right now). So he could maybe get me towed. I

need help! This is so terrifying! When this guy confronted me, he really was

an ASS. I am ready to say, without raising my voice, stop picking on me, I know

the law and follow it, etc. But God the ANXIETY! This is triggering me of

course. Help!!

Charlie