Re: Re: Should I tell her about BPD?

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It sounds to me like you're doing a pretty good job of working

to better yourself and your own actions.

If she is admits to having anxiety and depression and is open to

getting treatment for them, I agree with Annie that suggesting

that DBT without mentioning BPD might be the way to point her in

the right direction. Whatever happens with her, remember that

the only person you have control over is you, so if she refuses

to change, the only thing you can change about your interactions

with her is how you react. Your first responsibilities are to

protect yourself and your boys. If doing so means limiting

interactions with her and/or imposing other boundaries, don't

feel guilty.

At 12:07 PM 11/05/2010 coalminersdotter wrote:

>Dear Katrina,

>

>I'm just really confused right now. I actually thought I had

>dealt with all of this for the most part. I looked up BPD

>because I had the sense that was what nada has and wanted to

>get tips for handling her.

>

>I believed that my issues were primarily chemical/biological

>and used healthy approaches to beat the depression - no sugar

>diet, exercise daily, careful sleep schedules, cognitive

>therapy to improve negative thoughts, etc. I have been working

>and taking care of my little boys and feeling good about life.

>

>This BPD thing just threw me for a loop. I see so many

>unreasonable behaviors that I display. It is disconcerting. I

>am less concerned now about dealing with Mom and more with

>becoming better myself. I don't want to hurt others the way

>she hurt me, however unintentionally.

>

>The reason I consider discussing it with her is because she

>does feel that she has problems with anxiety and depression and

>is taking medications. She has also been in some

>counseling. I do notice a pervasive pattern of her feeling

>victimized and not responsible to change things, though, and

>these therapies have only helped minimally.

>

>I am working on a master's in counseling and am quite

>disheartened to find we may be dealing with the infamous " BPD "

>that professors have warned about.

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Katrina