Re: ummm, I got a date but:

[Guest guest]

LeeAnne

This is a serious decision for anyone. As for thinking like a thin

person, I beleive most of us did/do or we wouldn't take such a big step

to get our bodies where our minds are. Health issues are usually the

first sign...and they usually only get worse with age and more weight

gain. Spouses/significant others can be very nervous and or scred of

the changes they perceive may come with this surgery, and you have

expressed yourself, change is almost never easy. Have him read over

your shoulder when reading posts, look at some inspiring before and

after pictures, have him make a list of questions for " us " and post

them here so we can answer.

Only you can decide if this is right for you. GOod luck in your

decision and feel free to ask for input/advice here, everyone is quite

helpful!

[Guest guest]

Leann,

You're not alone in your way of thinking. I would bet most of us shared your

thoughts of:

" I keep thinking that there is just 1 more diet out there that might work and

the weight will stay off, silly me. I keep thinking if I would just be a little

stronger, a little more dedicated that I would lose weight and keep it off.

Maybe I won't have to take such a radical step " and " I am also a different

thinker than most people here. I don't see myself as obese. Oh, I see it when I

look in the mirror but I think I have the mind of a skinny person already. "

I know I had these feelings, especially just prior to my surgery. I think the

fear was setting in for me, but I prayed and felt some reassurance that I was

making the right decision. As for your husband being against the surgery, I'm

sure he has some fears about it too, especially since you have children. No one

wants to lose their spouse or be a single parent. Fortunately, my husband

supported me 100%. I don't think any of us saw ourselves as obese or ever had a

problem with it until some kind of reality moment made us realize that our

weight was causing health problems or preventing us from doing things we wanted

to do.

Just be sure that you are content with your decision before going through with

it. Otherwise, you may sabotage your life altering opportunity. Good luck with

your decision.

in Virginia

299/235/150

Lap RNY: 5/3/06

ummm, I got a date but:

hi all,

I have been enjoying everyones messages but I am not much of a

talker. You guys are very encouraging but I am very full of doubt. My

surgery date is Sept. 27th pending I quit smoking this week. So far

so good with that but now the doubts are starting. My husband is dead

set against this surgery. I don't ever discuss it with him anymore

and when he brings it up I don't say anything either way. My sister

just lost 50lbs on Weight Watchers and my husband keeps comparing us.

He just doesn't get that I just never keep it off. I keep thinking

that there is just 1 more diet out there that might work and the

weight will stay off, silly me. I keep thinking if I would just be

alittle stronger, alittle more dedicated that I would lose weight and

keep it off. Maybe I won't have to take sure a radical step. This is

probably the only way I will get my eating under control. I think

these are nerves talking because other than childbirth x3 I have not

really had any major surgeries.

I am also a different thinker than most people here. I don't see

myself as obese. Oh, I see it when I look in the mirror but I think I

have the mind of a skinny person already. I also think I am pretty

active already. I take my kids to the playground and play with them.

At home I am always crawling around the yard playing construction,

pushing them on the swing set and jumping on the trampoline. WE have

been to our local amusements parks 3times this summer and I still

ride most of the rides. I have more trouble with spinning than not

fitting in the seats. I am not small, I am 5'5 " and weight 270 but

somehow I fit.granted I do not have the stamina(sp) of a thin person

but I do live life.

I have worked as a Nursing Assistant in a hospital for 18 years

now and I think after seeing all the sickness (the young people are

especially hard) you are greatful for the semi-good health that you

do have.

I am doing this for me because of high blood pressure, pre-

diabetes, ect but I think I need some kind of reassurance this this

is the right way to go. The older I get the harder it gets to loose

weight. Reading the messages here with all the positive things have

really helped but I'm still alittle unsure.

Well that was quite alot for someone who doesn't usually post

much. Sorry!!!! Please forgive my ramblings. Any advise will be

greatly appreciated.

Leeann