Guest guest Posted October 12, 2010 Report Share Posted October 12, 2010 So I've been NC for about 2-3 years. I started my healing process about 8 years ago. Prior to that, I thought I had the best FOO in the world. (ugh) Some of you were so kind when I told tales of unnecessary hysteria. My friend's mom has Alzheimers, and I wasn't able to help her like she needed. I've been friends with this woman for 16 years. (Read: pre-healing process). Okay. So here's the update. I took a walk and evaluated my friend's behavior: -hysterical. Utter, complete, neuclear warhead getting dropped on her house fear. -unnecessarily ratcheting up the drama -making decisions that have nothing to do with reality, and creating more and more chaos for herself. -after she creates huge levels of unnecessary chaos, she has been demanding everyone in the world stop everything and jump in to alleviate it. -she believes she is the only one in the world who is suffering, and her problems are far worse than anyone else's. -talking about suing at least two facilities who cared for her mom. -furious that the facilities (with minimum wage workers) didn't--and I quote-- " meet her demands. " -people are being thrown in two categories: 1) angels who will help her like she needs when she needs in the moment she needs it according to her impossible standards, or 2) the anti-christ and/or fake a**holes who say they are Christians but are really satanic. -she needs constant and loud affirmations that she's okay and she's not the problem. (By the way, she's the problem). It's almost like she doesn't know who she is without external validation -she called me yesterday and announced, with high-level horror: " I need you to come over RIGHT NOW!! " (I didn't go--she was fine.) When I didn't rush right over, she spat out some orders and then had to go. She wanted me to make a phone call and recruit another minion. Ooops. I mean another helper. -She's ALL ALONE! and NO ONE is here to help her and SHE CAN'T DO IT!!! Hey, anybody. Do you see any familiar patterns here? I don't know how she'll act once this is all settled down, but I sure need to re-arrange the importance of this relationship. No wonder I was triggered yesterday. I was dealing with my histrionic mother all over again. Wow. Blessings, Karla Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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