don't want to set a bad example

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So I help coach my daughters cheer team. I have been involved with this

team for 5 years..I coached by myself one year 22 Junior girls and that

was in no way the hell this season is. There is a varsity coach that I

work with (not by choice mind you) I said to them in the beginning of

the season I'm not coaching but I'll help where you need me to. To them

that meant being the team mom. I figure OK I can hang out at the

practice and help out where needed. I despise the personality of this

lady coach she is very bossy..difficult to talk to unreasonable and

constantly Yells. I just realized that this is the thing that is

bothering me the most. I understand that at times you have to tell a

group of kids to settle down..or maybe a shhhhhh.while I'm talking. But

literally every 5 to 10 minutes is spent with her screaming " Girls how

many times do I have to tell you to be quiet " ..then she goes on this big

spiel about how she is so frustrated with them...then again every few

minute. I have made numerous suggestions that maybe we make rules with

consequences attached like..doing pushups..or situps..running..she

dismisses me. She is so crabby and the kids don't like her...most of the

parents don't either. But she is a volunteer and no one else wants to

do it.

When I am at practice..or around her I feel like a little kid..then I'm

angry with myself for feeling this way I try to figure out why I feel

terrified of this person..she is not my boss..she has no authority over

me..she can't cause me problems really. It must be all the screaming she

does..and she exhibits BPD traits. My daughter is not one of the girls

she has ever spoken too or yelled at. My daughter is quiet an pretty

much does her thing.

My problem is I want to quit..I don't want to be there anymore. I feel

that if I leave I am setting a bad example for my daughter. She has

gotten angry with some rules this coach has imposed on the girls (like

you can't wear your cheer uniforms the day before a game to

school...something everyone else in the school gets to do..it's team

spirit) and has wanted to quit but I have always stressed if you make a

commitment you need to follow thru to the end. Telling her that her team

mates are counting on her to be there to do her part or the whole thing

needs to be changed.

Football season ends in 3 weeks. The there are 3 compitions till the end

of November. I guess I just have to stick it out till then..

I'm just venting really but if anyone has any advice ...words of wisdom

I would greatly appreciate it

Stef