Should I tell her about BPD?

November 4, 2010

I've been reading " Stop Walking on Eggshells " and " Get Me Out of Here " and going

through some emotional trauma myself along the way. I kind of liked it over in

denial, but can't get back there now. ha ha

I have read that telling my nada about BPD will likely result in her getting

angry at me, etc. Thing is, she has this idea that we are just alike, like I am

a copy of her or something. I am almost sure I had BPD, at least LOTS of

behaviors and thoughts like it. I was diagnosed manic-depressive, bipolar type

2 and went through counseling, hospitalizations, medications, etc. I took the

MMPI 2 years ago and had normal results - no mental illness or personality

disorders of any kind. (The original diagnosis was given by a therapist with no

verification test, so that diagnosis could have been wrong...)

I qualified for all of the BPD criteria at one time. I have been working for

over 15 years to overcome these problems and am doing so much better now. I

have learned to control myself and am not hurting myself or others. I still

have black and white thinking and lots of other annoying little issues. But

maybe I had learned the behaviors to cope but wasn't really BPD?

Anyway, I have considered mentioning this to my mom regarding my own case to see

how she reacts. Would this be a very bad idea?

(I have worked through some anger and am feeling more acceptance about her now

and have instituted boundaries which she is respecting so far. I will not take

the emotional abuse or allow her to ruin my life or my day anymore. I feel a

more genuine love for her and even a touch of admiration for her getting through

life as severely as she is affected - worse than me even.)

Or am I just a child of a BPD who is taking everything on myself as usual and

feeling sorry for her again when she seems incapable of self-awareness, remorse,

or sincere concern for anyone but herself?

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