Guest guest Posted August 25, 2006 Report Share Posted August 25, 2006 Hi Terri, Thank you, your insight was very helpful actually, I never really looked at it that clearly. Thanks!! I too would handle your situation the same way as well. Best Wishes, Shauna Terri wrote: Hi Shauna, It's wonderful to be attractive to someone, even a stranger. But, that doesn't mean that you have to accept his advances. Obviously it made you uncomfortable, but perhaps it was not necessarily about you, but the way he went about it. Sounds to me like he was some what agressive which would make anyone uncomfortable. I cannot stress enough how important it is to not pay as much attention to those who are flirting with you because of your new body, those relationship generally aren't meaningful. It is wiser to wait for someone who is respectful to you and wants to get to know you as a person and become your friend for the long haul. Of course the later person too is going to be attracted to your new outter shell, but that helps draw them in, nothing wrong with that. For many years I was frustrated because guys, potential employers, other women would not give me a chance to see my true personality because they could only focus on my outter shell. It really ticked me off when people wanted to get to know me now because I am thin when they would hardly give me the time of day before. I am still always polite to them, but will never let them get close because I know their true colors. I hope I was helpful to you. Terri > > > > > > > > Rapid weight loss may require therapy too Aug. 22, 2006 at > 12:59PM > > Patients with significant weight loss -- some using bariatric > surgery -- often need therapy to address intimacy issues, says a > U.S. psychotherapist. > > Jo Rapini, a psychotherapist at the Methodist Hospital > Weight Management Center in Houston, says the lack of intimacy often > associated with obesity is rarely discussed. > > Rapini explained that intimacy is not sex, but sensuality, > sexuality, love and wishing good will on another person. In > addition, many who have a large weight loss have never experienced > touching, eye contact and compliments. > > Intimacy therapy is critical for most patients who undergo > rapid weight loss, because they must learn to accept and appreciate > their bodies in order to enjoy close relationships with others, as > well as learn to not hide behind their weight or use food to > medicate themselves in tough social situations, according to Rapini. > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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