Fears with fibro and young children....

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If I had to do it over again, I would have stopped after the first

child...think about it very carefully and talk to your husband in depth before

doing

anything, you will not regret thinking it through.

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Ok another post. I guess my fingers won't stop today.

I will share something with you. I have thought over and over about how I

would manage by myself with my kids. I fear I could not. This makes me feel

very insecure. It is a fact of my life I have to internalize. I fear I would

lose them if I had to do it alone. I honestly can say that my body won't take

much more than it does already. It takes every fiber of my being to go to work.

That is all I can do. Flashback to 5 or 6 years ago, I could have done it

without even worrying about it. I could get up, take them to school, go to

work, take care of them, keep up the house and everything on my own.

Fibromyalgia not only stole the person I once was, but it has taken away my

independence and ability to care for my children.

I sometimes imagine a life without the d/h. Then it hits me.... I wake up in

the morning not hardly able to walk or move, I hurt everywhere, I am weak....

And I think " how the hell would I get them to school if I had too " .

And now I know that if I did not work the 2pm to 10pm shift, I don't think I

could get to work. It takes me several hours to be able to go to work now.

Now I love the d/h. But if I ever needed to do this by myself.... I fear I

could not. At this point I could work to support us, but the rest of it would

be near impossible.

Just sharing,

love,

Debra V.

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You know....the same thoughts have been going through my head lately.

DH really wants kids...I am totally indifferent about it, but I

seriously don't know how I could handle it. But, I also know that he

really wants them...and if we don't have kids I know that will really

effect our marriage. But, at the end of the day...he works so much so

it would be ME that would mainly be caring for them. He is such a

momma's boy it is a big enough job taking care of him!

>

> Ok another post. I guess my fingers won't stop today.

>

> I will share something with you. I have thought over and over

about how I would manage by myself with my kids. I fear I could

not. This makes me feel very insecure. It is a fact of my life I

have to internalize. I fear I would lose them if I had to do it

alone. I honestly can say that my body won't take much more than it

does already. It takes every fiber of my being to go to work. That

is all I can do. Flashback to 5 or 6 years ago, I could have done it

without even worrying about it. I could get up, take them to school,

go to work, take care of them, keep up the house and everything on my

own. Fibromyalgia not only stole the person I once was, but it has

taken away my independence and ability to care for my children.

>

> I sometimes imagine a life without the d/h. Then it hits me....

I wake up in the morning not hardly able to walk or move, I hurt

everywhere, I am weak.... And I think " how the hell would I get them

to school if I had too " .

> And now I know that if I did not work the 2pm to 10pm shift, I

don't think I could get to work. It takes me several hours to be

able to go to work now.

>

> Now I love the d/h. But if I ever needed to do this by

myself.... I fear I could not. At this point I could work to support

us, but the rest of it would be near impossible.

>

> Just sharing,

> love,

> Debra V.

>

>

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Debra,

I have been living that exact nightmare since my fibromyalgia hit with

hurricane force 8 years ago. I was divorced with two children, one was

8 and the other 14. My ex husband moved 10 hours away and my parents,

sister, sister-in-law, etc all live over an hour away.

It is VERY hard.

lisa n.

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Arrrrrrrgh, this laptop is driving me crazy. The keyboard is so much

smaller than I am used to it, so it does crazy things. I was trying to say

that

when my kids were small, too small for me to take care of them and the house, I

had a teenager who was my mother's helper and I paid her the price that I

would pay a babysitter, to do light housework and take the kids to the park.

It made life so much easier for me and we weren't a middle class family.

Maybe you could do that.

Love and gentle hugs,

Debi/So. Cal.-54

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Debi,

Bless his little heart! Have you had a sleep study done? They did one

on my daughter when she was 7 and found out she had significantly

severe sleep apnea and her tonsils/adenoids came out. Since then, no

problems. We went to an ENT after a referral from the PCP.

Darlene

>

> We believe that our 6 year old has RLS, so he probably has fibro,

but we

> can't find a dr. who will admit that a child could have RLS, let

alone fibro, so

> we are treating him ourselves with OTC meds. He wakes up so many

nights

> with the exact symptoms of RLS, so we rub the pain out and we give

him Hyland's

> Leg Cramp medicine and Restless Legs medicine and it works!

>

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> Love and gentle hugs,

> Debi/So. Cal.-54

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