Re: Relationships with Fibro -- When to tell -- a question?

[Guest guest]

This is interesting... b/c I just sorta met someone. We are having

our first date/meeting on Sunday. I have mentioned some other things

about me (i.e. that I'm therapy) but not the FMS. I'm afraid to

mention it b/c I don't want the person to be turned off by me thinking

I'm a sickly person. I don't really know what to do. I'm pretty open

about it with everyone else. Well, the people I trust and like. That

way if I am having a bad day... I can just say, I'm having a bad day.

I know relationships with FMS aren't easy. In hindsight, I think I

probably had it when I was married and while a lot of things

contributed to that marriage failing, that is one I think about and

wish I had known sooner. Of course now... ironically enough, he is

with someone with FMS. *shakes head* Don't get me started.

So... to tell or not to tell? That is the question?

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for the 2 cents. I think that is what I am going to do. We

are having a coffee/bookstore date. I will just take him over to the

health section and bring it up. That way I can explain what it is

with ease. Or at least, try to.

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> My opinion - I say " tell " and you get it out of the way and also

tell what the guy is made of. Why date for months, tell, and maybe

have him leave and maybe you are already emotionally attached.

Wouldn't you want to know straight up if your prospective new guy had

medical issues? It might not change anything, but maybe it would and

knowing sooner the better, I say.

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> Ruthie (2 cents again)

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