Guest guest Posted November 3, 2010 Report Share Posted November 3, 2010 So I've told my mom that I need space before I can spend time around her again after everything that's gone on (primarily the way she's spoken to and treated my husband). That's good. But now she's coming up with every excuse under the sun to see me. She's got mail for us, can I come pick it up? She found something we left behind when we moved, can I come get it? She'll buy me a free dinner/lunch/tea/whatever if we go out to chat. There's a sale on photofinishing at Costco, can she print some of my pics for me? My dad is feeling depressed because I'm not talking to them. That last one - her most recent effort - almost got to me. I really love my dad even if he's the King of Denial and I really hate feeling depressed, so I wouldn't wish it on him. But I just don't know what to say to people who insist that I should pretend everything is normal when it's so clearly not, and I'm scared that I'll get sucked in and start feeling guilty for ever believing there was something wrong with my mother EVEN THOUGH THERE IS. That's how it always goes. I know this is a boundaries thing and I need to stick to my guns, but it's annoying and a little bit tough to be subjected to such a constant barrage. I guess that's the strategy. I'm sure at least some of you guys have been there. How did you deal with the guilt? What did you do to keep your resolve strong and not lose faith that you were doing the right thing? Psyclone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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