Why the heck does this still get a rise out of me?

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Why do her responses, lame and predictable as they are, get me riled up? I sent

her, my dad and sister a message via Facebook that I was not doing the family

thing this Thanksgiving:

( " Jerry and I have decided to spend our first 'kid free' Thanksgiving alone.

Actually, we haven't decided exactly what to do this year, but we will not be

doing the family thing this year. We may even take a short vacation if his work

schedule allows. It's time for us to branch out and change things up. So, please

go ahead and make your Thanksgiving plans with our absence in mind. " )

Today I have this response waiting in my email: ( " Sounds good.

Dad and I have been discussing doing this for a while now. Glad you understand.

Mom " )

WTF? Apparently SHE thinks it was her idea, and is " glad " I understand. The only

thing I am glad to finally understand is that the woman who raised me is a BPD.

I was expecting her to call me and bitch me out for rejecting her, and had

already worked up my response. I forget she's been at this game her whole life,

and is a master at deflection.

Why does this bother me still? Why does this surprise me? In a way her easy

capitulation will make my life easier, but I also am looking for the TRAP. There

is always a trap. Communications with her just confuse me and make me want to

cry.