Guest guest Posted January 8, 2008 Report Share Posted January 8, 2008 Relationships? They are great fun when it is with someone who makes you feel great when with them. I have had problems in that area due in part to my FMS and no one wants to hear about a 42 year old male who has not really worked for nearly 10 years or has a full college education because of the meds and the ongoing pain. Now if there is a woman in here who is single and has had the same issues, then I hope to have contact with you on a more personable level. Also I have often wondered if there was a book out there on people with disabilites and how to be intimate with another how does or does not have a disability. Maybe something along the lines of Relationships for disabled people for Dummies. Sounds pathetic, however, I believe that a book would be great for chronic pain sufferers. Any ideas on the book? RAB --- jaimeislove wrote: > I just read an email about relationships and fm. > This is my own > personal story. My fiance's ex wife has fm. He > wasn't supportive of > her (not just beecause of the fm) so she never told > him when she > hurt. I, on the other hand, talk to mu fiance about > my pain. Yes, > there are days he thinks I'm whining, but he knows > that sometimes it > helps just to talk about the pain. He suffers from > migraines so he > knows about pain. He has been ultra supportive > since finding out I > have fm. His ex wife and I are friends (now, we > weren't for the > first 1 1/5 years of his and my relationship). We > both support each > other now because we both know the pain of fm. > She's great to talk > to and she's a nurse so she also gives me advice > (heating pads, hot > baths, etc.) > > I am a firm believer that if something has an affect > on every day of > your life, you need to tell people that will be in > your life every > day. I'm not saying tell someone on the first date, > I'm saying when > you think there is a chance of something being long > term, discuss it > with them. > > Just my 2 cents! > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 i have fibromyalgia for dummies and it gives some relationship advuce. > > > I just read an email about relationships and fm. > > This is my own > > personal story. My fiance's ex wife has fm. He > > wasn't supportive of > > her (not just beecause of the fm) so she never told > > him when she > > hurt. I, on the other hand, talk to mu fiance about > > my pain. Yes, > > there are days he thinks I'm whining, but he knows > > that sometimes it > > helps just to talk about the pain. He suffers from > > migraines so he > > knows about pain. He has been ultra supportive > > since finding out I > > have fm. His ex wife and I are friends (now, we > > weren't for the > > first 1 1/5 years of his and my relationship). We > > both support each > > other now because we both know the pain of fm. > > She's great to talk > > to and she's a nurse so she also gives me advice > > (heating pads, hot > > baths, etc.) > > > > I am a firm believer that if something has an affect > > on every day of > > your life, you need to tell people that will be in > > your life every > > day. I'm not saying tell someone on the first date, > > I'm saying when > > you think there is a chance of something being long > > term, discuss it > > with them. > > > > Just my 2 cents! > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 Hi RAB, Believe it or not, there is a book " Fibro for dummies. " Lussia God Bless You! --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Anger in a relationship is usually caused by a sense of loosing control, in this case your better health has meant a change in your life and he feels he has lost control over what has happened. If you have left then he probably feels even more threatened as his life is now seriously spiralling out of control and it will only get better. Re: Relationships/RAB i have fibromyalgia for dummies and it gives some relationship advuce. > > > I just read an email about relationships and fm. > > This is my own > > personal story. My fiance's ex wife has fm. He > > wasn't supportive of > > her (not just beecause of the fm) so she never told > > him when she > > hurt. I, on the other hand, talk to mu fiance about > > my pain. Yes, > > there are days he thinks I'm whining, but he knows > > that sometimes it > > helps just to talk about the pain. He suffers from > > migraines so he > > knows about pain. He has been ultra supportive > > since finding out I > > have fm. His ex wife and I are friends (now, we > > weren't for the > > first 1 1/5 years of his and my relationship).. We > > both support each > > other now because we both know the pain of fm. > > She's great to talk > > to and she's a nurse so she also gives me advice > > (heating pads, hot > > baths, etc.) > > > > I am a firm believer that if something has an affect > > on every day of > > your life, you need to tell people that will be in > > your life every > > day. I'm not saying tell someone on the first date, > > I'm saying when > > you think there is a chance of something being long > > term, discuss it > > with them. > > > > Just my 2 cents! > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Looking for last minute shopping deals? > Find them fast with Yahoo! Search.. http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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