Think it is possible??? (very long)

[Guest guest]

Thanks Marti,

My husband does say everything is relative and no one can feel another's

pain. I am sure that one persons divorce can be as tramatizing to them as my

story is to me. I hope I show some strength through my ordeal. We can help

eachother I think with our lives experinces.

Marti Boguski wrote:

Hi Debi, What a terrible thing to have happened to you. What terrible

memories. I had written earlier that I have found it almost impossible to

overcome the memories of my childhood without having the same terrifying

reactions inside. I have tried to write about it. Most things I can work out by

writing about them, but I get so sad I can't finish. I'm 59 and wonder if I'll

ever get passed them also.

I wish you a healthy outcome eventually.

Marti

Deborah Younce wrote:

I also had a very bad childhood with an abusive stepfather who threatened kill

my mother if I ever told. I told when I was 24 and he did kill her. Every time I

try to talk about it or write about it the flashbacks are like a tidal wave. I

am now 50 and know in some areas I will never grow up. I still want my mommy.

Debi Y

Zimmy wrote:

> And to close those thoughts, it's possible, that if I had such buried

> memories that no one who even talk about, how many others may have had

> pains that were not explained to them?

, this was a tragic tale with interesting implications. I'm so

sorry for your loss. Congratulations on your efforts to investigate

it and make it part of your experience without the mystery and

vagueness that surrounds a 2-year-old's memory. I had a similar

experience with a vague memory and associated fear that was

subsequently explained, quite unexpectedly, by someone else.

I found that although it doesn't make the experience go away, it can

put it into an adult perspective, rather than flashbacks which

essentially have me viewing and feeling it like I did at age 5. As

I said above, it's now part of my experience, part of what makes me

who I am, rather than a vague feeling and unexplained terror.

Good work!

Z

[Guest guest]

I agree. I believe we are genetically marked to get it, but some people are

lucky enough to not have any trauma to bring out the symptoms and suffering.

Like Christi, mine was a long history of anxiety and depression that finally

peaked in 1997. Thankfully, my traumas seem like nothing compared to some

of the rest of you, but they were enough to cause the FM.

Jeanne in WI

> I'm no expert, but I read that our fibro is always 'there' but a trauma

> kind of 'triggers' it or wakes it up. I was abused by my first husband

> but didn't start experiencing any pains until an auto accident in 1995.

> This was over two years after leaving first husband, so who knows.

But there were little things I always had, which leads me to believe it was

always 'there.'

[Guest guest]

> It turns out however, that when it comes to fibromyalgia

> patients, the majority of them experience not only discomfort, but

> genuine pain when they undergo the blood pressure test. Health care

> workers noticed that fibromyalgia patients complained of pain and

> discomfort a lot more often whilst undergoing the test than did the

> general population and patients with other conditions. This led a

> group of researchers to investigate whether the standard blood

> pressure test (Sphygmomanometry) might actually be used as a test to

> diagnose fibromyalgia.

Yeesh. I'm one of those patients. Especially when I was super

morbidly obese, getting my blood pressure taken was excruciating.

It's still painful, but not intolerable.

Z