Re: Pain Pain Pain.... need support/ Margaret

[Guest guest]

How sad you have no faith, if that's the case. If I can't express how my faith

has helped me in all aspects of my life, I guess I don't want to be part of the

group either. For those of us who believe, I'm sure you understand.

Carmen, hang in there.

Margaret Badner wrote: Looks as if the religious

brigade is back again. I'm out!

Margaret B

> Hi Carmen - Your last paragraph said it all. There is some sort of

> reason

> for you having to endure all this. You may never know for sure

> what that

> reason is, but learning to live with it, and possibly overcome it

> are your

> new goals in life.

> I am glad you aren't suicidal. We all get frustrated and feel

> weighed

> down by the pain and depression. I believe you need to switch from

> Effexor

> to Cymbalta. It's obvious the Effexor isn't helping you anymore.

> Cymbalta

> is similar in that it can give you energy, but it also has an added

> component to help with the pain.

> You need to shop for a doctor who will treat your pain with the

> needed

> meds and treat you with respect. Fire the other guy's butt!!! I'm

> sure

> cancer pain is the worst, but this guy obviously doesn't believe

> that anyone

> else could be even close on the pain scale. What a jerk.

> As for your family, instead of dwelling on all you cannot do

> for them

> now, try to dwell on how much you love them and are glad to be with

> them.

> Guilt is the worst thing for us, it just sinks us down further into

> the

> black pit of depression. Tell your kids and husband every day that

> you love

> them and feel so lucky to be blessed with them in your life. Like

> I told

> another mom, if you can't attend their concert/ballgame/whatever,

> let them

> know that you are cheering them on from the couch or bed or

> whatever. They

> are so much better off with you, than without you.

> I hope some of this hopes and I will pray for you to get some

> relief

> from your pain and your depression.

> Jeanne in WI

>

>

>> I think the past few months have been trying to prepare me for

>> what was

>> coming. I have been able to find more pain than I thought

>> possible. My

>> left leg from hip to toes has been in spasms since December 22.

>> That day

>> my husband took me to the ER. The doctor there was kind and

>> respectful to

>> what was going on. He gave me some

> reasonable pain medication; in fact he was the first to give me

> proper

> medication. So, I actually felt quite well over Christmas. That

> was it. I

> saw my doctor the other day and he sneered and said, people who

> take that

> level of pain medication should be dying of cancer etc.

> In the meantime, I am starting to feel sad, and I am on Effexor,

> and a very

> large dose of that. I am afraid for my life. I am afraid of

> losing my

> handsome, active caring husband, because this sucks for him too.

> He has

> found some entertainment that does not include me, but I

> still fear. He says he loves me and would never leave, but I

> know, I just

> know how hard it is for me, so it has to be equally difficult for him,

> though in different ways.

> Friends, co workers, my mother, they all look at me as if to say,

> " what is

> it now... "

>>

>> I read recently that the #1 cause of death among people with

>> chronic pain

>> was suicide. Don't get me wrong I am NOT suicidal at all. But I

>> understand what they are saying. Life is constant pain, and I

>> feel like I

>> am watching it go by. For the first time in my life I

> understand that suicide is not about being sad, in fact it is

> about wanting

> to unburden others and about not feeling this pain that no one

> seems to

> understand anymore.

>>

>> I love my husband and my kids with my whole heart, soul, fibre and

>> being.

>> I just wish I didn't feel like such a burden to them.

>>

>> Then there is light... I know my fight is for a reason, even if I

>> can't

>> quite figure that out right now. I know God wouldn't give me more

>> than I

>> could handle. Would he?

>

>

>

> 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on

> the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always

> check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along

> with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just

> dangerous in general.

>

> 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is)

> pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to

> trying to make that situation better.

>

> 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-

> unsubscribe

>

> 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling

> bad at the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that

> potentially take something another member says the wrong way. And

> that includes the things that one member may find funny (even if

> it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal with illness

> whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense

> of humor.

>

> 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad

> day pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support.

>

> Have a nice day everyone.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Why do you assume I have no faith when I want to keep religion off

the list. Not everyone on this list is a christian. Please respect

that.

Margaret B

> How sad you have no faith, if that's the case. If I can't express

> how my faith has helped me in all aspects of my life, I guess I

> don't want to be part of the group either. For those of us who

> believe, I'm sure you understand.

> Carmen, hang in there.

> Margaret Badner wrote: Looks as if the

> religious brigade is back again. I'm out!

> Margaret B

>