Relationships with Fibro - Alannakitty-sorry if late getting out

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Hi Alannakitty

I had read this before but am now getting to it. I am in this same situation. I

know exactly how you feel-you don't want to say anything, yet you feel like you

just have to tell them, in order to prepare them for your life together should

you both stay together. I hate this, I hate feeling like I feel like I have to

defend myself, when I know that while I'm telling this person about my fm, I'm

wondering if they think I'm just full of shit and am a crybaby or something.

actually it occurs to me that you have probably have gone out on this date, I

hope it went well and did you tell him? Claudette

alannakitty wrote: I

just found this person off of OKCupid the other day. We have

exchanged several emails and talked on the phone. We look really good

on paper and over the phone but it really is too soon to say. We are

meeting/having a first date on Sunday. I have to make sure I don't

over do it so I can handle going out and being " social " . So no, I

don't know his medical stuff. I just wonder how to deal with it in

relationships and how others on here have. But you are right, it is

about me. Having FMS doesn't define me but it is something that is

apart of me. Just like me having a mood disorder. It is something

that I feel is ingrained no matter how much I don't like it. So yeah,

I can see myself saying something early on. I just don't want to get

treated with kid gloves or shitty b/c of it.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

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> Tell AFTER you have told him you leave your dirty socks on the floor

and everything you eat has to fit in the microwave. Seriously its a

matter of perspective, on your list of important things how important

is it ? does it define who you are or is it something you live with.

Do You know his medical history ? DO you knwo about his gammy foot

that plays up in footy season ? Is it important for you to know that.

Or is his personality and the way he views his gammy foot more

important. This is not a " you " question its an " us " question. What do

you need to know about him ? Where are his priorities ?

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[Guest guest]

ok sorry i dont think youve gone on this date yet im confused about my dates

sorry

claudette hudson wrote:

Hi Alannakitty

I had read this before but am now getting to it. I am in this same situation. I

know exactly how you feel-you don't want to say anything, yet you feel like you

just have to tell them, in order to prepare them for your life together should

you both stay together. I hate this, I hate feeling like I feel like I have to

defend myself, when I know that while I'm telling this person about my fm, I'm

wondering if they think I'm just full of shit and am a crybaby or something.

actually it occurs to me that you have probably have gone out on this date, I

hope it went well and did you tell him? Claudette

alannakitty wrote: I

just found this person off of OKCupid the other day. We have

exchanged several emails and talked on the phone. We look really good

on paper and over the phone but it really is too soon to say. We are

meeting/having a first date on Sunday. I have to make sure I don't

over do it so I can handle going out and being " social " . So no, I

don't know his medical stuff. I just wonder how to deal with it in

relationships and how others on here have. But you are right, it is

about me. Having FMS doesn't define me but it is something that is

apart of me. Just like me having a mood disorder. It is something

that I feel is ingrained no matter how much I don't like it. So yeah,

I can see myself saying something early on. I just don't want to get

treated with kid gloves or shitty b/c of it.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

>

> Tell AFTER you have told him you leave your dirty socks on the floor

and everything you eat has to fit in the microwave. Seriously its a

matter of perspective, on your list of important things how important

is it ? does it define who you are or is it something you live with.

Do You know his medical history ? DO you knwo about his gammy foot

that plays up in footy season ? Is it important for you to know that.

Or is his personality and the way he views his gammy foot more

important. This is not a " you " question its an " us " question. What do

you need to know about him ? Where are his priorities ?

>

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