Re: OT Hello From Grits Need All Your Prayers

January 8, 2008

So glad to hear from you Vicki. I hope things work out well. I believe they

will. And of course, people can give all the advice they want to but in the end

it is you who knows what is best for you.

I do miss you here. I am so glad to hear from you. I can tell the healing

process is beginning for you.

love,

Debra V.

gritsgrill wrote:

I know its been a long time since I've been on the group but I have

been under such emotional stress and therefore extreme pain from the

ending of my 20yr marriage. (Not my choice). Tomorrow is my day at

Divorce Court and I need all your prayers going out for me so I will

have the strength to make it through this. I'm not getting anything but

the house. I did not ask for alimony even though I deserve it.

Emotionally I did not think that I could handle being attached to this

emotionally abussive man any longer by whatever means. I will start

over and I wiil make it on my own. Plenty of you have done it and I can

too. I have a loving family to support me. Maybe after tommorrow they

will stop hounding me about what I should have done. I did what I felt

was best for me mentally and physically.

Thank you for your friendship and prayers and it may take me a little

longer to heal before I can get back to group.

Love to all,

Grits/Vicki

P.S.

You can e-mail be directly at gritsgrill@...

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January 8, 2008

Hugs and prayers!

gritsgrill wrote:

> I know its been a long time since I've been on the group but I have

> been under such emotional stress and therefore extreme pain from the

> ending of my 20yr marriage. (Not my choice). Tomorrow is my day at

> Divorce Court and I need all your prayers going out for me so I will

> have the strength to make it through this. I'm not getting anything but

> the house. I did not ask for alimony even though I deserve it.

> Emotionally I did not think that I could handle being attached to this

> emotionally abussive man any longer by whatever means. I will start

> over and I wiil make it on my own. Plenty of you have done it and I can

> too. I have a loving family to support me. Maybe after tommorrow they

> will stop hounding me about what I should have done. I did what I felt

> was best for me mentally and physically.

> Thank you for your friendship and prayers and it may take me a little

> longer to heal before I can get back to group.

> Love to all,

> Grits/Vicki

> P.S.

> You can e-mail be directly at gritsgrill@...

>

> 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as

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certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.

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may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) even though we who deal

with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense

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> 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day pls

let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support.

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> Have a nice day everyone.

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January 8, 2008

>

> I know its been a long time since I've been on the group but I have

> been under such emotional stress and therefore extreme pain from the

> ending of my 20yr marriage. (Not my choice

Grits, I remember when you posted that husband had told you/asked you?

for divorce! It was such a horrible way that he did it and if you are

in court tomorrow, then things must have moved along pretty quickly!

Sorry you will not be getting any $$, but I can well remember what my

ex did after our divorce. I got the money up front but the SOB sent

the tax refund check for me to sign and then send back to him! I

signed it immediately, sent a nasty note that he could just sign the

state one and that I would send him back his 1/2 as soon as I received

the check!! Once I got that state check, sent his share back to him,

I had NO further direct contact. Oh, friends told me things, my

youngest sister maintained contact and perhaps, 20 plus years later

she still does! And I have discovered that the straight laced, white

shirt guy who would never have dreamed of living in California, is now

working at Berkley! I do hope he stands out there more than he did in

the past ---- I just can't see the guy who didn't own a pair of jeans

until he was 39 and wore a tie to class while in college, can fit in

one of the more radical colleges in the country.

But I will be thinking of you tomorrow and I also hope that, despite

this not being your decision, you might begin to feel better

physically once he is out of your life.

God bless you, Grits.

January 8, 2008