Horrible night last night

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Well Yesterday could have been better. Hubby actually called and apologized for

his behavior Thursday night that left me in tears. He berates me until I am so

low and feeling bad about myself. tells me " You just don't get it over and over

again. " Never takes responsibility for the things he does to me. So this was a

first, but not holdin' my breath.

So he decided to help me get groceries last night. another first, since

was out with friends. Remember he cancelled my debit card, so I could no

longer use it. Well it still worked yesterday morning, so he thought it never

got cut off. Well took an hour to shop and check out except when we got to check

out the card wouldn't work. So we had the lady at walmart suspend the

transaction so he could call the bank and see what was up. well the cut off that

card. So he had them put his other debit card on that account so we could pay

for the groceries. Well they said that it is good to go and so we go to the

service desk to pay and it don't work, so he call again and they say the same

thing. this time though Walmart had to rering the whole cart. Guess what

happened? Card would still not work. He had the cashier wait while he again

called the bank. Still could not get it to work. The cashier stood and waited 20

mins at least for him to do all this. I was so embarassed.

But I have had the card not work numerous times, cause of one reason or

another. Now at least he could maybe feel how I do at these times. also he could

see how overreacting and shutting off the debit card caused all of this hassle.

then of course on the way home started yelling at me about it. Grrr. Not my

fault, it was his own doing. So today he had to go to the bank and get me some

cash to go grocery shopping all over again. Feel like crap today. Have a sore

throat, congestion and fever on top of the fibro. Not in the mood to go, that is

for sure. Well had to get that off my mind. thanks for listening and being there

for me. Please pray that I can get through today. Hoep everyone else is better

off than I .

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

What a horrible thing to go through. Well, he really only has himself to blame.

It is too bad you have to pay the consequences with the extra energy it takes.

You know, it seems my d/h can seldom admit he is wrong either.

I hope you get better today. I know you spent your energy last night and have

to find some again for the same shopping expedition. Walmart..... a great store

but so damn big.

love and hugs,

Debra V.

wrote:

Well Yesterday could have been better. Hubby actually called and

apologized for his behavior Thursday night that left me in tears. He berates me

until I am so low and feeling bad about myself. tells me " You just don't get it

over and over again. " Never takes responsibility for the things he does to me.

So this was a first, but not holdin' my breath.

So he decided to help me get groceries last night. another first, since

was out with friends. Remember he cancelled my debit card, so I could no longer

use it. Well it still worked yesterday morning, so he thought it never got cut

off. Well took an hour to shop and check out except when we got to check out the

card wouldn't work. So we had the lady at walmart suspend the transaction so he

could call the bank and see what was up. well the cut off that card. So he had

them put his other debit card on that account so we could pay for the groceries.

Well they said that it is good to go and so we go to the service desk to pay and

it don't work, so he call again and they say the same thing. this time though

Walmart had to rering the whole cart. Guess what happened? Card would still not

work. He had the cashier wait while he again called the bank. Still could not

get it to work. The cashier stood and waited 20 mins at least for him to do all

this. I was so embarassed.

But I have had the card not work numerous times, cause of one reason or another.

Now at least he could maybe feel how I do at these times. also he could see how

overreacting and shutting off the debit card caused all of this hassle. then of

course on the way home started yelling at me about it. Grrr. Not my fault, it

was his own doing. So today he had to go to the bank and get me some cash to go

grocery shopping all over again. Feel like crap today. Have a sore throat,

congestion and fever on top of the fibro. Not in the mood to go, that is for

sure. Well had to get that off my mind. thanks for listening and being there for

me. Please pray that I can get through today. Hoep everyone else is better off

than I .

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

I was married to one of those. I'm not anymore. It takes a lot to pull

yourself up from that kind of degradation. I hate to say it, but he's not going

to change.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

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Hi, So was I and I agree in the 28 years of our marriage he never changed and in

the 12 years after our divorce he still hasn't changed.

Marti

Angie wrote:

I was married to one of those. I'm not anymore. It takes a lot to pull

yourself up from that kind of degradation. I hate to say it, but he's not going

to change.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

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Nope I realize he is not going to change. Have known that a long time now. Just

not sure what I am gonna do about it yet. I appreciate y'all being there for me.

Know I am here for y'all too anytime.

Hugs,

Marti Boguski wrote:

Hi, So was I and I agree in the 28 years of our marriage he never changed and

in the 12 years after our divorce he still hasn't changed.

Marti

Angie wrote:

I was married to one of those. I'm not anymore. It takes a lot to pull yourself

up from that kind of degradation. I hate to say it, but he's not going to

change.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

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, you can always talk to me. I don't know how long you have been married,

not that it matters. You know that I'm here and you can e-mail me at my address

any time you want. I have been there before you. Old codger here.

Take care of yourself,

Marti

wrote:

Nope I realize he is not going to change. Have known that a long time

now. Just not sure what I am gonna do about it yet. I appreciate y'all being

there for me. Know I am here for y'all too anytime.

Hugs,

Marti Boguski wrote:

Hi, So was I and I agree in the 28 years of our marriage he never changed and in

the 12 years after our divorce he still hasn't changed.

Marti

Angie wrote:

I was married to one of those. I'm not anymore. It takes a lot to pull yourself

up from that kind of degradation. I hate to say it, but he's not going to

change.

Angie Harley Mama Double-D

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Too late to pray for yesterday, but I will pray for today. Hope you were

able to get groceries. Men like him will never think it is there own fault.

They refuse to take the blame because it gives them power to blame someone

else. Hang in there.

Jeanne in WI

> Well Yesterday could have been better. Hubby actually called and

> apologized for his behavior Thursday night that left me in tears. He

> berates me until I am so low and feeling bad about myself. tells me " You

> just don't get it over and over again. " Never takes responsibility for the

> things he does to me. So this was a first, but not holdin' my breath.

> So he decided to help me get groceries last night. another first, since

> was out with friends. Remember he cancelled my debit card, so I

> could no longer use it. Well it still worked yesterday morning, so he

> thought it never got cut off. Well took an hour to shop and check out

> except when we got to check out the card wouldn't work. So we had the lady

> at walmart suspend the transaction so he could call the bank and see what

> was up. well the cut off that card. So he had them put his other debit

> card on that account so we could pay for the groceries. Well they said

> that it is good to go and so we go to the service desk to pay and it don't

> work, so he call again and they say the same thing. this time though

> Walmart had to rering the whole cart. Guess what happened? Card would

> still not work. He had the cashier wait while he again called the bank.

> Still could not get it to work. The cashier stood and waited 20 mins at

> least for him to do all this. I was so embarassed.

> But I have had the card not work numerous times, cause of one reason or

> another. Now at least he could maybe feel how I do at these times. also he

> could see how overreacting and shutting off the debit card caused all of

> this hassle. then of course on the way home started yelling at me about

> it. Grrr. Not my fault, it was his own doing. So today he had to go to the

> bank and get me some cash to go grocery shopping all over again. Feel like

> crap today. Have a sore throat, congestion and fever on top of the fibro.

> Not in the mood to go, that is for sure. Well had to get that off my mind.

> thanks for listening and being there for me. Please pray that I can get

> through today. Hoep everyone else is better off than I .

> Hugs,

>

[Guest guest]

Must be something in the air. I had THE worst night in a while last night.

Was up most of it ~ One can only watch SO many reruns of M*A*S*H! LOL

Seriously, I do NOT look forward to the next 2 weeks with no pain meds. I

am out as of now ~ just took my last one. Pray that I can get my Medicaid

card SOON so I can fill my Lyrica script. Maybe that will help me over the

hump till I can get more pain meds. Having less intestines than the average

bear (I had Gastric Bypass Surgery) I don't absorb meds like others do, so

it takes MORE to get any results. However, most doctors don't see that, and

I run out of meds too early. *sigh*

I would mug a nun for a shot of morphine!! <<evil grin>>

Hope the rest of you are doing better. I cannot WAIT till SUMMER and WARMTH

again!

Blessings,

Lou

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

" Give me ambiguity or give me something else. "

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

[Guest guest]

ME TOO! I'm having a horrible flare-up. I just got over the flu last

week and started wanting to get out into the sun, even though it's

been really cold. Then Friday night I couldn't sleep well and woke up

yesterday morning like a mack truck had run me down. Then dealing

with my husband being so sweet one minute, then complaining about how

awful his life his the next, is pushing me over the edge. Get this,

last night he offers to rub my back, but his idea of fun is to hold

the cold lotion up high and let it hit my skin. I asked him to please

not to do this and he got mad. He did still rub my back, but bitched

the whole time, that everything had to always be serious, I could

never joke about anything. He didn't get that that was painful for

me, not a joke. Then today, he comes home from Walmart and says he

saw something he wanted to buy me but didn't cuz he knew I'd get

pissed. I asked him was it something I'd like or was it something you

liked? He said it was something I wanted you to have...some satin

pajamas; which he knows I don't like, I'm sure it was some little

sexy thing to try to get me to wear for him. His idea of gift giving

is to be able to give me what makes him happy, not what makes me

happy. We had the same fight over Christmas. And my daughter and her

fiance are over doing laundry and watching football and brought their

dog with them, so the house is noisy on top of everything else,

grrrrr. Makes me want to just curl up and wish the world away. I

can't do that with everyone here, though, they freak out because I

tried to kill myself 6 years ago (and damn near succeeded). So here I

sit complaining to y'all without the benefit of any pain meds (my

choice right now, as I'm in recovery for addiction) trying not to

feel too sorry for myself. Thanks for letting me vent.

>

> Must be something in the air. I had THE worst night in a while

last night.

> Was up most of it ~ One can only watch SO many reruns of M*A*S*H!

LOL

>

> Seriously, I do NOT look forward to the next 2 weeks with no pain

meds. I

> am out as of now ~ just took my last one. Pray that I can get my

Medicaid

> card SOON so I can fill my Lyrica script. Maybe that will help me

over the

> hump till I can get more pain meds. Having less intestines than

the average

> bear (I had Gastric Bypass Surgery) I don't absorb meds like others

do, so

> it takes MORE to get any results. However, most doctors don't see

that, and

> I run out of meds too early. *sigh*

>

> I would mug a nun for a shot of morphine!! <<evil grin>>

>

> Hope the rest of you are doing better. I cannot WAIT till SUMMER

and WARMTH

> again!

>

> Blessings,

> Lou

>

> ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~

> " Give me ambiguity or give me something else. "

> ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

>

[Guest guest]

Hi - Doesn't your doctor know that you need more meds because of the

gastric bypass? If he/she believes you are still like a normal person when

absorbing meds, we who've had that type of surgery know better. Heck, even

among normal people, everybody reacts and absorbs things differently. You

need your doc to be more flexible, to work with you, not against you. I'll

pray you get your Medicare card and maybe you get a new doctor, too. Take

care.

Jeanne in WI

Dealing with FM & WLS?

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/FM-WLS/

> Must be something in the air. I had THE worst night in a while last

> night. Was up most of it ~ One can only watch SO many reruns of M*A*S*H!

> LOL

>

> Seriously, I do NOT look forward to the next 2 weeks with no pain meds. I

> am out as of now ~ just took my last one. Pray that I can get my Medicaid

> card SOON so I can fill my Lyrica script. Maybe that will help me over

> the hump till I can get more pain meds. Having less intestines than the

> average bear (I had Gastric Bypass Surgery) I don't absorb meds like

> others do, so

> it takes MORE to get any results. However, most doctors don't see that,

> and I run out of meds too early. *sigh*

>

> I would mug a nun for a shot of morphine!! <<evil grin>>

>

> Hope the rest of you are doing better. I cannot WAIT till SUMMER and

> WARMTH again!

>

> Blessings,

> Lou