Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 In a message dated 12/20/02 8:28:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, jorghahaq@... writes: > What in the hell is that? Denial? Been there done that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 I'm going to be my aspie self here and answer your question as best I can, instead of merely co-miserating. I am from Mars. Sometimes kids will be dx'd weirdly, like, " PDD-NOS with autistic tendancies " or I think I have also seen " NVLD with autistic traits. " Why they can't just say " autism " I do not know. Sometimes it seems professionals think they will spare us something by not using " the A word. " Other times it may be money-related -- the state will have to pay x amount for a child with autism, but only y amount for some other dx that means the same thing. Sad but true. My reading on hyperlexia today reveals some parents are adamant that their children ARE NOT AUTISTIC although hyperlexia is considered on the spectrum. I can understand this if hyperlexia is truly the only issue affecting the child. Some kids really do warrant a PDD-NOS dx and not an autism dx. Likewise I'm sure some kids are only hyperlexic, and for those children, autism programs probably would not be the best education for them, because their issues are just not the same. Or like said...could be plain old denial...or ignorance... Bizarre, yes. (There, I co-miserated. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? Autism? Perhaps she meant some other PDD? Fragile X? PDD-NOS? Maybe she didn't really understand how these things are related? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? > Probably given the PDD-NOS label and clutching it for all she's worth. :-( Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 Thing is she is very accepting of his condition when she talks about it. That is what is so freaking strange. Because he is considered " high functioning " does that mean that it isn't *real* autism? Does she have an idiot dr. that can't explain things? It was all really strange Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Stupid thing someone said In a message dated 12/20/02 8:28:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, jorghahaq@... writes: > What in the hell is that? Denial? Been there done that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 Probably. It's still strange At least to me Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Stupid thing someone said > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? Autism? Perhaps she meant some other PDD? Fragile X? PDD-NOS? Maybe she didn't really understand how these things are related? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? Sounds like a guy I work with. His son started having seizures. He's on seizure meds. There's not physical reason (brain damage etc) for him to be having seizures. But my co-worker says " Thank goodness it's just a seizure disorder and not epilepsy. " WTF???? Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 um, If it looks like a duck aaaaaaannnnnd it walks like a duck, then it's most certainly a duck. I wish people could understand it's not a death sentence, and I really wish doctors were not so afraid of it. Penny Stupid thing someone said Ok first of all I am way behind for various reasons will explain all later but I would like to tell you about something stupid that was said to me today. The mind boggles Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. What in the hell is that? Georga Hackworth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 Let me be the first to say that High-Functioning most definitely IS real Autism. Penny Re: Stupid thing someone said Thing is she is very accepting of his condition when she talks about it. That is what is so freaking strange. Because he is considered " high functioning " does that mean that it isn't *real* autism? Does she have an idiot dr. that can't explain things? It was all really strange Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 20, 2002 Report Share Posted December 20, 2002 > him to be having seizures. But my co-worker says " Thank goodness it's > just a seizure disorder and not epilepsy. " > > WTF???? When was a newborn he suddenly began screaming for 6 hours every night. I asked on a parenting list for help, and commented, " Thank God it's not colic. " I just didn't know. I guess I thought it wasn't " bad enough " to be colic. (Because...a 2 week old screaming for 6 hours straight is...normal?) Oh yes - it was colic. Nobody on the list told me, either. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2002 Report Share Posted December 21, 2002 Ok People are officially stupid. Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Stupid thing someone said > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? Sounds like a guy I work with. His son started having seizures. He's on seizure meds. There's not physical reason (brain damage etc) for him to be having seizures. But my co-worker says " Thank goodness it's just a seizure disorder and not epilepsy. " WTF???? Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2002 Report Share Posted December 21, 2002 Well yea. I know that You know that But for some reason this person doesn't know that Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Stupid thing someone said Thing is she is very accepting of his condition when she talks about it. That is what is so freaking strange. Because he is considered " high functioning " does that mean that it isn't *real* autism? Does she have an idiot dr. that can't explain things? It was all really strange Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2002 Report Share Posted December 21, 2002 > > him to be having seizures. But my co-worker says " Thank goodness it's just a seizure disorder and not epilepsy. " > > > > WTF???? > > When was a newborn he suddenly began screaming for 6 hours every night. I asked on a parenting list for help, and commented, " Thank God it's not colic. " > > I just didn't know. I guess I thought it wasn't " bad enough " to be colic. (Because...a 2 week old screaming for 6 hours straight is...normal?) > > Oh yes - it was colic. > I understand not knowing. I didn't know what was doing when he first started having seizures. It looked like breath holding. This person is in DEFINITE denial. He sees epilepsy as a debilitating disease that only mentally handicapped people have. His son can't possibly have that because he's too smart. What irritated me so much about the situation is that he continues to have these misconceptions about eplipsy even though I've talked about quite a bit. I've answered everyone's questions about seizures and he apparently isn't listening or just can't accept the diagnosis for his son. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 21, 2002 Report Share Posted December 21, 2002 ----- Original Message ----- > Let me be the first to say that High-Functioning most definitely IS real > Autism. > > Penny > Allow me to second that motion! Literally. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 Denial isn't just a river in Egypt ;-) When my ds was first diagnosed, they gave it those labels like PDDNOS (which doesn't exist, it was a pathetic attempt to discover a new disorder), and one woman said to me and confused the h*ll out of me: a learning disorder. While it is a learning disorder, I thought it meant he hadn't learned enough or something, and all I had to do was take him to a library and teach him some stuff. I was like " well, at least it isn't something serious! " LOL! They should say " autism " first, then explain it very plainly. They shouldn't ease parents into it, as it will only prolong and confuse the understanding. I believe in one very important thing - Tell It Like It Is! " Not my kid " crosses most of our minds when we are first told. It is somebody else's kid, not mine. But denial is dangerous as early intervention is crucial. Accepting it doesn't mean I'm giving up, it means I know what I am dealing with. Caroline > Ok first of all I am way behind for various reasons will explain all later but I would like to tell you about something stupid that was said to me today. The mind boggles > > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? > > Georga Hackworth > UBAH Educational Consultant > Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 > Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 > Accepting it doesn't mean I'm giving up, it means I know what I am dealing with. Caroline < amen! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 Am I some sort of freak? I never went through denial. LOL! I was relieved when I was told because it ment I wasn't crazy or over-reacting like everyone said I was. I really wanted to talk to this woman more but the other person that was standing there was one of those sorts of people who had one child about 9 months old and she has read all these parenting manuals so she is an " expert " . Her personality is also patroinizing. She decided that she needed to give advice. I just walked away. If she ever needs me she can find me. Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Stupid thing someone said Denial isn't just a river in Egypt ;-) When my ds was first diagnosed, they gave it those labels like PDDNOS (which doesn't exist, it was a pathetic attempt to discover a new disorder), and one woman said to me and confused the h*ll out of me: a learning disorder. While it is a learning disorder, I thought it meant he hadn't learned enough or something, and all I had to do was take him to a library and teach him some stuff. I was like " well, at least it isn't something serious! " LOL! They should say " autism " first, then explain it very plainly. They shouldn't ease parents into it, as it will only prolong and confuse the understanding. I believe in one very important thing - Tell It Like It Is! " Not my kid " crosses most of our minds when we are first told. It is somebody else's kid, not mine. But denial is dangerous as early intervention is crucial. Accepting it doesn't mean I'm giving up, it means I know what I am dealing with. Caroline > Ok first of all I am way behind for various reasons will explain all later but I would like to tell you about something stupid that was said to me today. The mind boggles > > Today someone was talking and said that her 6 year old didn't talk and blah blah blah. Asked her what was wrong with him and she said that he had problems that were related to autism that it was part of the autistic specturm but he wasn't autistic. > > What in the hell is that? > > Georga Hackworth > UBAH Educational Consultant > Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 > Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 > Am I some sort of freak? I never went through denial. LOL! I was relieved when I was told because it ment I wasn't crazy or over-reacting like everyone said I was. < hahaha, no, i think that happens quite a lot, actually. i know that i WAS in denial with kailey at first. she was my first and i had no one to compare her to but my brother james who also has autism (among other things), but by the time i realized it really was true, yes i was VERY relieved to get the dx. in trevor's case, i never went through denial because i almost expected it to happen. " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 As soon as autism was mentioned to me, I did as much research at the library as I could on it. However, nothing sounded like , it was all on the most severe and the stereotypical behaviors. This was not my child. A year and a half later, we started seeing problems in how he interpreted questions, and we'd have to re word what we were saying and talked to the psychologist who first suspected it. She said she still thought he was so we had him evaluated. Lo and behold....... We never went through denial of it though. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 No, you aren't some sort of freak...you are a special kind of freak...lol j/j I never went through denial either.... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Am I some sort of freak? I never went through denial. LOL! I was relieved when I was told because it ment I wasn't crazy or over-reacting like everyone said I was. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> Her personality is also patroinizing. >>>>>>>>>>> These are the kind of people that get hit the hardest, I think. Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 >>>>>>>>>>> Her personality is also patroinizing. >>>>>>>>>>> > These are the kind of people that get hit the hardest, I think. Penny < well, i think we all know somebody this will happen to someday " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2002 Report Share Posted December 23, 2002 > Am I some sort of freak? > I never went through denial. LOL! I was relieved when I was told because it ment I wasn't crazy or over-reacting like everyone said I was. > If you're a freak then so am I. After asking all 4 pediatricians in my daughter's clinic and being told that " She'll outgrow it " . It was SO nice to finally be taken seriously so I could get her into therapy and start DOING something about it! Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2002 Report Share Posted December 24, 2002 > <<they gave it those labels like PDDNOS > (which doesn't exist, it was a pathetic attempt to discover a new > disorder),>> Um . . . I respectfully *disagree* here! -BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2002 Report Share Posted December 24, 2002 A special kind of freak? What kind would that be? LOL! Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! RE: Re: Stupid thing someone said No, you aren't some sort of freak...you are a special kind of freak...lol j/j I never went through denial either.... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Am I some sort of freak? I never went through denial. LOL! I was relieved when I was told because it ment I wasn't crazy or over-reacting like everyone said I was. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> >>>>>>>>>>> Her personality is also patroinizing. >>>>>>>>>>> These are the kind of people that get hit the hardest, I think. Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 24, 2002 Report Share Posted December 24, 2002 The patronizing person was the person that she was talking to. ARGH! I am sure that Jayme is a really nice person and all but she just has one of those personalities that I can not deal with. I am sorry just because you have one child and have read every child developemental book on the planet does not make you a child expert. ARGH! I was working this book booth (it was a long week) and asked Jayme to come help us. She brought her 9 month old with her and I am sorry yes this is the sort of job that you can do with kids in tow and all but he was really in the way. We didn't have a lot of room and I kept falling over the stroller that he was in and she was taking the baby and shoving it in peoples faces to get their attention. It was tacky. One person even gave her that look and walked off. Anyway at one point the baby was doing what little ones do and was tossing his toys on the floor to get someone to go get them for him. She started giving me this lecture on why babies do that and what it means developementally and blah blah blah. Like I don't know what normal child development is. I have 7 kids. And you know it dawned on me that Dalton never did anything like that. Savannah didn't do it either come to think of it. Sierra and Cheyenne did very little of it. I wonder if ASD kids just don't do some things like that like how some of them don't point. Anyway Ms Patronizing and Ms Denial seemed to get along real well. LOL! Maybe I am just not the person to deal with someone in denial. I tend to be to much of an in your face sort of person. You know " Here have a nice dose of reality and deal with it " . LOL! Maybe Ms Denial needed Ms Patronizing at the moment. LOL Georga Hackworth UBAH Educational Consultant Enter to win $50 worth of free books at www.ubah.com/F1549 Start your own Usborne Home Business in December for only $59.95! Ask me how! Re: Re: Stupid thing someone said >>>>>>>>>>> Her personality is also patroinizing. >>>>>>>>>>> > These are the kind of people that get hit the hardest, I think. Penny < well, i think we all know somebody this will happen to someday " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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