Re: To Lupy-- Make up and fibro and being pale

[Guest guest]

Hubby's Mom was asking how I was feeling when he talked with her on

Christmas. That just made me feel funny. I hate sympathy, pity, or to

be looked at like I'm 'sick.' Because I'm not sick, I rarely get

viruses/bugs, I just hurt. I consider myself healthy but someone who

'deals with' fibro.

I told Jim that, I said " I don't want your Mom to think of me as sick "

he said I don't think she does, I think she was just wondering how you

were doing.

I'm queen of dismissing how I really feel though. If someone asks how I

feel, I'll say fine. I don't like to draw attention to 'it' because I

feel like I give 'it' power.

debra van ness wrote:

> I have the same problem with looking pale all the time. If I don't wear make

up I look like death warmed over. Of course no one says anything but I look

like crap most days even with make up.

> The thing that gets me is they know I have FM...... yet they never

ackowledge it or even ASK how I am feeling. They know I look like shit... yet

they don't believe that " fibro is that bad " . Go figure.

> hugs,

> Debra V.

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Debra and Melody,

I do like it when someone asks how I'm feeling, just like you Debra. I know I

look terrible. I am so pale and it took a lot to make me paler since I'm

already blond, blue eyed and pale. Even when I wear make up I look just a

smidge better. It's not like I can wear anything dark enough to make me look a

nice warm color. It would look fake as could be. But I do put some on

sometimes when I feel like it. Then there's the Sarcoidosis that makes my eyes

red and watery, which is so attractive - not.

I too am healthy most of the time, except now when I have pneumonia

complicated by Sarcoidosis. I don't catch many colds or flus. So I don't like

it when someone acts like I'm sick and asks if I'm better or well yet. They

know I have fibro and it's a constant condition and it's like asking if any

disabled person is better or well.

Both of you take care,

Marti

Melody wrote:

Hubby's Mom was asking how I was feeling when he talked with her on

Christmas. That just made me feel funny. I hate sympathy, pity, or to

be looked at like I'm 'sick.' Because I'm not sick, I rarely get

viruses/bugs, I just hurt. I consider myself healthy but someone who

'deals with' fibro.

I told Jim that, I said " I don't want your Mom to think of me as sick "

he said I don't think she does, I think she was just wondering how you

were doing.

I'm queen of dismissing how I really feel though. If someone asks how I

feel, I'll say fine. I don't like to draw attention to 'it' because I

feel like I give 'it' power.

debra van ness wrote:

> I have the same problem with looking pale all the time. If I don't wear make

up I look like death warmed over. Of course no one says anything but I look like

crap most days even with make up.

> The thing that gets me is they know I have FM...... yet they never ackowledge

it or even ASK how I am feeling. They know I look like shit... yet they don't

believe that " fibro is that bad " . Go figure.

> hugs,

> Debra V.

>